"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is It Better To Dump Or Get Dumped?

soulforge

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GetFit66 said:
Realize in your mind how everything she did was toxic, day by day work on this without stressing yourself out too much. When it becomes stressing swith actives do something you enjoy. I suggest watching breaking bad on Netflix :) do more fun things enjoy your day.

And this woman just seem like she uses and abuses people, I mean what kind of person treats you the way she did. And on top of that she brings up racism? Bat sh1te crazy bro. More alpha doesnt fix crazy, it just makes crazy become an obsessive stalker.

You have alpha inside of you act on it how you like.


hey man, than for your great advice...

i have been making excuses to myself last few days... maybe she did not mean this, or maybe she did not mean that, trying to make excuses for her bad behaviour...

but guess what? my mate is a taxi driver, in the same town where my ex girlfriend lives.. and she has been seen with some guy going to a restaurant

this woman is already out with some dude.... i was a little gutted to find this information out...

but u know what, i just don't care anymore... i want this toxic woman out of life for good & for me to heal & find myself again!

turns out i was right about her... she is a low value, cheap woman!


i just need to move on from this ****t
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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soulforge said:
she told me she loved me all the time & yet the slightest thing & i would turn into a monster in her eyes!
Remember your wrote this.

soulforge said:
on the subject of kids...

ok i,m 37 years old with no children of my own

she is 46 with 4 children aged 8, 15, 17, 21

the chances of her having anymore kids is very very low
You wrote this too. Even if she's hot she doesn't sound like a good catch.

She has four children and she is 9 years older than you are.

soulfarge said:
also it is a very high risk for me to even attempt having kids with her... due to the fact we have split up 3-4 times already

if she ended up pregnant, i would probably end up paying child support till the age of 55

while she is f#cking somebody else! she has her last ex partner by the balls already paying child support & she makes sure she squeezes every penny out of him
There you go again. Now you have so much truth about her you are now worried that she has found another prospective partner and has moved on.

So what? The means that other guy has to deal with all of that baggage.

soulfarge said:
also if i don't have kids with her... what am i left with? just her & her kids...

for me to take on that type of responsibilty, i would need a very loyal & good woman by my side... and she is not that woman... i just want her to be that good woman
Well there you go. This means either she really wasn't the right match for you, or she's a liability down the road to whoever gets involved with her. All you see are just desperate guys that has her as their only option, or guys that want to pump and dump her and don't want anything serious with her and her going on an ego-trip. She probably met the guy online. You know the truth about her, they don't.

Look it like you sold a stock from a company you know was about to go bankrupt to another person who believes the company is about to go somewhere. You don't have the toxic stock anymore as you sold it. Who cares about the other person who bought it - you are off the hook - unless you feel sorry for the guy she is dating, lol!

Guaranteed - time heals wounds. Within 9 months you'll forget this women ever existed.
 

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hey man thanx for the great advice!

you know what, thats exactly how i am rationalizing this situation...

she was just too much BAGGAGE and in reality had nothing to offer me at all.

no kids, no stability, no loyalty, and nothing but f@cking stress


this woman should never had been anything but a f@ck & dump.... i really don't know why i let myself fall for her..


screw whom she may or may not be seeing... time to move on & regard myself lucky, for getting rid of this toxic trash in my life


i think it's just the betrayal that hurts... but i guess thats to be expected when your dating low value imoral *****s
 

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how do i deal with the anger.... feel like i wasted so much time on this worthless women, and put up with with so much crap...

i feel anger towards her
 

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Workout. Release it all in the gym. I promise you'll feel better afterwards.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Workout. Release it all in the gym. I promise you'll feel better afterwards.
Year, I hear punching bags are good to working out the muscles.
 

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Year, I hear punching bags are good to working out the muscles.

i used to workout 5 days a week, up till about 4 weeks ago...

whens things got ****tty with her, i kind of lost focus... going to get back in the gym tomorrow
 
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