Is it beta to ask if we are still together after a fight

[Dhoulmagus]

We got in a fight and didn't talk for like two days. I noticed she was stalking me, so I made peace. We apologized, forgave each other, and made sure there was no more hate between us.

 

[skinnyguy]

Your posts confuse me

 

[Dhoulmagus]

I've never had a gf, so im pretty novice

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Your posts confuse me

How? We fought, apologized and made up and im just curious if I should ask if we are still together.

 

[Comatozed]

i think unless one of you said it was over then you're still together.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

i think unless one of you said it was over then you're still together.

I said it was over but I was drunk af

 

[LuckyStrike88]

Assume and act like you are still together. Asking her is a sign in insecurity.

 

[Stugots26]

A woman typically blows problems way out of proportions because her response is emotional. The problem is rarely as big as the emotional response. As a man, you have to be the mountain - unmovable, unshakeable, unreactive to the gale force winds, and appropriately help to reduce the apparent size of the problem back down.

By asking if you're still together, you're giving her emotional response to the problem more credit than you should. She "stalked," and you made up. If you frame it as you're still together and like nothing really happened, then you probably can slide right past the fight. If you ask if you're still together, you're not only acknowledging that the problem was that big, but giving her way too much value in your life.

 

[hudpes]

We got in a fight and didn't talk for like two days. I noticed she was stalking me, so I made peace. We apologized, forgave each other, and made sure there was no more hate between us.

Cool story bro!

 

[void957]

We got in a fight and didn't talk for like two days. I noticed she was stalking me, so I made peace. We apologized, forgave each other, and made sure there was no more hate between us.

Stop posting ****.

u just said there was no more hate, then obv u are still together.

You'll most likely break up when u hear the words "we need to talk" , thats when u know ****s gnna go down.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Strongest position = No Contact till she initiates.

Weak = Contact her and initiate plans to see her, as if nothing happened. She'll either be receptive or not and you'll have your answer.

Epitome of Weak = Asking her directly.

Oh, are you talking about initiating contact. We've been texting since tuesday. I never brought it up. I told her why I was mad and she told me why she was mad and we apologized pretty much. Are you talking about her initiating to come over? What's a non-beta way to ask her to come over lol because I want sex?