Is it bad to start a career young?

[SoSuaveDude]

Okay, so my brothers, I am 19 and currently enrolled into a nursing program at my local community college. At the current rate, I will be a graduate at age 21, and hopefully be employed at 22.

Now the problem lies in going to a community college and not getting the "college experience". Social life is pretty bad. Yes i'm in nursing and surrounded by women all day almost, but i'd rather not mess with them on that level, considering the fact that if something goes wrong, I will have to continue seeing them in class for the duration of the program and there will be loads of gossip and stigma about me. Lots of work and little free-time anyway.

Since i'm in community college, I still live with my parents, and it blows hard, as i can never bring any women over during free-time. Can't wait to move out when i get a job.

Anyway, does having a career at an early age like that limit the amount of women I can find/juggle. Will it pay off? Am i missing out on all the "fun"? Can i still party after landing a job? Thanks for the advice, I'm just curious of my proactive decision.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

It all depends on what you want to do with your life.

I'm still in school, but when I graduate.. I plan on just living with a bunch of people (so I don't have to pay as much rent) working part time hours, and starting bands, writing music, and touring non-stop.

I personally don't look at money as something super important. I budget well and spend well, but I can die happily without being a millionaire. I'm a really adventurous outgoing person.

If you like making money and being stable, jump into your job industry. If you want to experience adventure and live with not too many responsibilities.. Then maybe try to jump into your profession part time at first so you have more freedom for other endeavors (traveling, music, art, anything really..).

I know the way I think may be sort of against the wholistic DJ ideas of this board.. But I'm a real minimalist. I'm happy living out of a backpack as long as I have friends by me.

You can always meet women on the weekends. Especially in a big city like NYC or somewhere similar. Plus having a good full time job will probably just attract them to you. But deciding a life-path like that based on women is a foolish idea. You should do what you want man! Women are everywhere.

 

[Vice]

Okay, so my brothers, I am 19 and currently enrolled into a nursing program at my local community college. At the current rate, I will be a graduate at age 21, and hopefully be employed at 22.

Now the problem lies in going to a community college and not getting the "college experience". Social life is pretty bad. Yes i'm in nursing and surrounded by women all day almost, but i'd rather not mess with them on that level, considering the fact that if something goes wrong, I will have to continue seeing them in class for the duration of the program and there will be loads of gossip and stigma about me. Lots of work and little free-time anyway.

Since i'm in community college, I still live with my parents, and it blows hard, as i can never bring any women over during free-time. Can't wait to move out when i get a job.

Anyway, does having a career at an early age like that limit the amount of women I can find/juggle. Will it pay off? Am i missing out on all the "fun"? Can i still party after landing a job? Thanks for the advice, I'm just curious of my proactive decision.

Dude, you're in a nursing program... who gives a F*CK about "gossip" and all that petty sh*t? Don't "let it go wrong", just set it up so that it can't. As in, DON'T GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP with them, just f*ck them. And there's also going to be girls in OTHER classes on campus as well.

And I'm not sure about what you mean by the "college experience". Do you mean spending ridiculous amounts of money on a degree that requires useless classes and ultimately does not prepare you for real life while happening to be hanging out with girls at their sluttiest point in their lives that you could easily meet by going to any bar/club near said college regardless of whether or not you go there?

And yes, you can still party after finding a job. It's not like they're not going to let you in the door because you look like you have a job.

 

[Zerro]

I ****ed around too much in my 20's, changed careers twice, and am just now getting to where I should have been years ago. As long as you're sure that this is what you want to do then by all means do it now.

I ended up going through engineering school, which left me with little time for chicks, and from all the student nurses I know it sounds like you probably don't have it any easier. The only difference is that you're surrounded with chicks rather than being in a 4 year long sausage fest so at least you'll get to know plenty of them during that time. Anyhow, most of the "college life" is dominated by the easier (and less marketable) majors that have much more free time than you to begin with, the occupy wall street crowd is loaded with such people.

I too did the community college thing and I highly recommend it as I much prefer having far less debt to pay off than friends who went straight to a 4-year university because they had to have the whole "college experience". Then again it probably helped that I was an older student and had been partying for years before these kids ever got their hands on any alcohol. On the other hand so many of them are still living with 2-3 roommates in some slummy house with insane loan debt to pay off while I'm already driving the luxury sports car I've wanted for years and deciding which house to buy for myself. I feel that I got the better deal in the end.

As for having time for women, I certainly have much more time since I finished my degree and have the assets to pull in a higher quality of women as well. Focus on your education now, you'll have plenty of time over the rest of your life if you get yourself set up properly now.

 

[In10se]

4 years ago I had exactly the same concerns running through my mind. All of my friends went away to college while I stayed home and commuted to the city. At a commuter college in NYC there is really no social scene or frat parties to meet girls and as you said have a "college experience". I was fortunate enough to go on a full merit scholarship and considered taking out loans so I could transfer and be with my friends.
Jump ahead to the present and I am going into my last semester of college and I am so thankful that I stuck with it and didn't make the ridiculous decision of incurring debt. Do not let media's portrayal of college fool you into throwing away money and contributing to the largest financial bubble in our economy, the student loan bubble. Focus on your career and try and find some local 18+ places for you to go. If there are none then wait until you are 21 and go to college bars/clubs.
You are not missing out on anything by putting your career first; stability and financial security are far more important when you are 40 than being able to say you ****ed 15 extra sleazy girls while you were in college.

 

[MisterD]

Focus on your career, the women come along for the ride. Don't chase women. Chase your dreams, your wants, anything that helps you better your life and who you are as a person. Women will be there during that journey.

 

[Borknagar]

at your age you're best to focus on career and money, I wished I did, if you focus, you'll have everything you'll need and watch by 24/25 a house, a nice car, spending money, etc. And less financial stress. When I was your age I wasted my time at **** hole jobs and just now buying a house. I am 32, and part of it is luck. I got a useless IT degree, but my job is quality assurance at a manufacturing company, whichs pays and has more benefits, and laid back than anything my IT degree would start me out at.

Point is,m chasing tail can be fun, for awhile, but will get frustrating. It's more important to focus on other things. Keep your physical self in working order as well. You're young, you got PLENTY of years left in you to be chasin chicks, take care of yourself first and foremost.

 

[backbreaker]

i started my business with my partner when I was 19 when my 2 best friends were in college. I'm not going to lie it sucked. it sucked quite hard honestly at the time. i didnt' go on one date for 3 years. not only that i ahd to sit back and watch my friends rake in tail week after week. it was very hard to do.

lol let's just say it was worth it.


let me put it this way. the "fun" you can have when you are 21, is no where near the "Fun" you can have when you are 28-29 and you did what you were supposed to do earlier in life. the toys get bigger, the girls get leggier, the drinks get more expensive, the car gets newer. "Fun" at 21 is going to the local pub on a friday night. "fun" to me now is taking a spur the moment trip to hawaii.


I would say, use your free time to better yourself. you aren't fvckign anyone go tot he gym. read up on clothes. get some hobbies. just base you aren't having fun doesn't mean you should be just sitting there twiddling your thumbs


you will be fine. you will be more than fine if you keep your head straight and stick around and learn what mistakes not to make when it comes tow omen. you will have more than your share of "fun" i promise you.

i am 28 and I get hit by 18-20 year olds more now than I ever did when I was 18-20, and i wasn't really bad looking at all when i was that young.

I know the way I think may be sort of against the wholistic DJ ideas of this board.. But I'm a real minimalist. I'm happy living out of a backpack as long as I have friends by me.

there is nothing wrong with that at all. It's quite admirable. It's just not me lol.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

Okay thanks for the advice, I definitely needed some older guys to pitch in. I'll just keep trucking along towards my goals, and accept whatever comes as a result.

 

[Warrior74]

Yah, it worked out so bad for bill gates to start his career young. If you know what you want and have the passion and drive, don't wait.

 

[Mike32ct]

Starting young is great. You'll learn faster. You'll gets lots of experience and rise up in the ranks. You'll also meet quality women. Go out on your days off if you want. Or use some of the money you make to travel on vacation.

I see no down-side.