I work at an office, and so I'm dressed up professionally for work. Sometimes on my break or lunch, I'll see a girl who's dressed really casually for school or mall or whatever. I'm just wondering if it's a good thing to be dressed more professional or if it's actually a bad thing when doing a pick-up?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Is it bad to be over-dressed?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
TxCowboy
Senior Don Juan
It all depends on YOUR dress code at work and whether or not you HAVE to get dressed up. With that being said, if you have to dress up , then DO IT, else ... dress however you want to and wear clothes that make YOU comfortable.... clothes are a very small fraction of the battleMVP said:I work at an office, and so I'm dressed up professionally for work. Sometimes on my break or lunch, I'll see a girl who's dressed really casually for school or mall or whatever. I'm just wondering if it's a good thing to be dressed more professional or if it's actually a bad thing when doing a pick-up?
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Bloke
Senior Don Juan
How are you dressed MVP ?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think in some situations, yes...however, from what you're describing, NO.
If you're going to watch a Sunday afternoon at Dodger stadium on a hot summer day, wearing a suit and tie would be overdressed, to the point of ridicule. There is nothing wrong with taking pride in your appearance. I think it is definitely possible to be underdressed.
If you're going to watch a Sunday afternoon at Dodger stadium on a hot summer day, wearing a suit and tie would be overdressed, to the point of ridicule. There is nothing wrong with taking pride in your appearance. I think it is definitely possible to be underdressed.
TxCowboy
Senior Don Juan
I dont see anything wrong with slacks, a polo shirt, and some nice shoes. Just dont come off as a prep or someone with some "up-tight" personality ... Its all in the person wearing the clothes that matters, but YES , looking nice is always a "+"MVP said:I don't get a choice. Well, I'm not allowed to wear casual things like jeans or t-shirts or baseball caps. So I usually wear slack pants and dress shirts or those polo t shirts.
Another idea ... take her out one day and have her help you pick out some clothes at a store (HAH ... and have her buy them too ...) .... Im never good with all that cr@p of color matching and what not ...
bbestar
Banned
you should try to be professional, especially in the business setting. But on occasion you should change it up.
Dress like a gangster for once or a afc type, and try dressing like you just got out of bed with the wifebeater.
Try to run some game and you will be suprised about the responses you get, with the right body language and congruence.
Dress like a gangster for once or a afc type, and try dressing like you just got out of bed with the wifebeater.
Try to run some game and you will be suprised about the responses you get, with the right body language and congruence.
how do you dress like an afc? :crazy:bbestar said:you should try to be professional, especially in the business setting. But on occasion you should change it up.
Dress like a gangster for once or a afc type, and try dressing like you just got out of bed with the wifebeater.
Try to run some game and you will be suprised about the responses you get, with the right body language and congruence.