Is it alright to give up on girls?
Is it alright to give up on weightlifting?
Is it alright to give up on dressing in popular, trendy clothes?
Is it alright to stop concentrating your efforts on making money?
Yes. If that's right for you. No, if it isn't.
If you don't know either way, you don't know what you really want. And knowing what you want is the only way to get it. It's the first step in ANYTHING you do. Yet how many people really know what they really want? 1 in 10? Less than that?
Back in my last year of high school, I was constantly reading and re-reading articles on this forum, trying to work out 'the way' to get girls where I was. I was studying in a grim little market town, so there weren't many chances to begin with. Most girls looked like John Merrick, the 'Elephant Man'. In the end,
I realised that I was looking for a girl for the wrong reasons. I wanted to be transported to sensation wonderland, to escape my boring life. I wanted a girl to be a 'jukebox'.
I stopped approaching and it was the best thing I could have done. I got into my projects, made the most of my studies, and got into one of the best universities in the country. And more importantly, I spent a lot of time writing and re-writing my targets, what I want to achieve. That was the key. ONCE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE REALLY LOOKING FOR, HALF THE CHALLENGE IS SOLVED.
You ask 'is it okay for me to stop approaching?'. Man, it's ALWAYS okay for you to do that. Providing that is what you think is right for your path at this moment.
Two questions to ask yourself.
1) 'what am I looking for when I DO approach?'
and 2) 'Is it worth devoting energy into finding that (by approaching girls) when I could be using that time for other things?'.
The first part of your question you can only answer yourself. Most guys I know go for blonde, popular girls who wear a lot of makeup, who are into fashion, clubbing. I've come to realise that I don't want that. I go for a more unusual type (Side note: you'll find when you swim in a bigger pool, you'll meet lots of cool international girls. Girls who are have enough self possession to live in another country for a year usually have character and personality, two rare qualities).
What do you want? Someone to compliment your personality? A quick ****? You really need to know.
The second part: it sounds like you can't find too many opportunities to meet women. Are you looking for new chances to meet girls, or are you looking for reasons why it's 'too hard'? In either case, you'll find it.
Take the attitude 'This place is full of cool opportunities to meet girls, I just haven't found them yet', and your mind is PROGRAMMED to find those chances. It's like when you decide you want a certain car, and you suddenly start noticing that kind of car on the road...
If you've already talked to most girls in your class already, that's a GOOD thing! Anyone who seems to like you? How about showing them a new side of yourself? How about coming in feeling GREAT (do whatever you need to. I listen to a lot of music) and let your infectious enthusiasm rub off on them. Invite them out. There is always an opening if you look for it (no pun intended :yes: ).
If 'getting laid' doesn't affect your life that much, and you're just looking for permission to focus on things that you DO care about, consider it granted by yours truly.
Good luck!
