is it all really that serious?

[acrobatjester]

Hi so this is my first post here, I have been reading some of the threads for a while and thought I would open some discussion. First of all is any of it "game", "life" really that serious? like some people are so pissed off and bitter and downright hateful.

And I do get it, I have been there/am there...when you get rocked by a girl you were vulnerable to it ****ing hurts and its hard to think any other way then man this blows. But I guess you kind of have to ask yourself why all the dramatic bull**** and seriousness in the first place? Like what is really going on, what makes life so serious? Why not be light hearted and ****ing enjoy it? I get that you have to suffer, and take on some pain like working out or working etc. In the end were all going to be dead, and eventually there will be no trace of ANY person that lived. So why live your life so miserable and depressed. And I am not saying it is easy, I still battle with trying to see the lighter side alot of times and I am asking myself this as much as anyone else. But like girls and going out its not a monumental deal if you think about it.

After being in a LTR and getting attached I can see how you can lose this sentiment and really start fearing to lose someone because they become such a big part of who you are and your life, it becomes an identity crisis. And I am trying to think how you can translate some light heartedness into LTR's. Anyway that's some of my thoughts.

TLR - Who really cares, life is too fleeting to be pissed off and cynical go enjoy it. Stop being scared and serious about life or game or whatever.

 

[_sideways_]

It's a sport....no matter what anybody says....rich poor ugly handsome.....if u wanted happiness and bliss u would follow ghandi, mother Teresa, monks....ur either in it for the love of the game or u get married and settle. It's about not settling with a woman who irksome u, gives u grief, not settling for that beer gut, not settling for just barely paying ur bills. Some of us want the best in life for ourselves and our offspring.. yea...I take that seriously any way you slice it....superficiallly, emotionally, etc...everyday some people strive to be their best...in all aspects. Is it serious? It's all relative....

 

[Lotus Effect]

You are in a roll _sideways_

I'm enjoying reading your stuff.

And indeed, it is some serious sh*t. I'm a lighthearted and overall happy/funny dude, but the real truth, after you see it, it is hurtfull. And it is bitter as well.

But then when you understand stuff, you can be happy again and see people for their true nature, then please yourself and be happy with it!

 

[acrobatjester]

I see the "it's a sport" perspective and there's nothing wrong with competing and trying to do your best, thats where the fun is. I'm trying tall about the people who start to breed resentment and hate for other people. And they lose their respect for women or other people in general. Nature is nature and nobody really has control over how they grew up or act women and men both.

So ya do you and go for what you want but don't hate others just because they aren't buying what you are selling or they have some issues...like anyone here doesn't? Have fun with it, be real let that **** go. No one is really that much to blame for how they turn out.

 

[acrobatjester]

Anything you invest time in holds some importance in your life. A small investment is not nearly as important to you as a large one. For instance: getting married is a huge time, financial, and emotional commitment. You better damn well know what you're doing because if you don't you could (most likely will) get screwed. If you're just out gaming girls in clubs or doin day game--your investment is limited and so too will be its importance to you.

There's a transition period for most people who swallow the red pill. Initially you are hyper-analytical and feel the need to prove yourself by being a "true don juan." It's really important to you to prove your worth and become next level. Transition occurs when you let things go and become a natural alpha. You next more frequently, you spin plates naturally, and you exude dominance; and therefore women are less important to you. Your priorities become self-centered and not outwardly motivated. Things just aren't that serious to you when it comes to other people.

I would find it hard to believe that any alpha male gets married in this day and age. The incentives are just not there to justify it.

Okay this is a good post and you make some good points. Time and attention are our currency and the more you spend naturally the more you expect back..even still I think you shouldn't get to attached to anything for your identity's sake.

As far as marriage...I'm still pretty young so I may be inexperienced but wouldn't you want to try and find that alpha female that competes with you and you become a team, power couple that goes out a ****s life up together. Women have qualities men don't and vice versa. Ying to your yang. And I understand you gotta play the field to find that buy eventually you gotta get sick of it. And I have to believe a women can stay as faithful and in love with a man as long as he stays a ****ing man.

 

[thatfeel]

Women have qualities men should NEVER want to have and if they do have them then they're beta faggots. Sorry but that's just how it is.

 

[acrobatjester]

No **** that's why you get a women who has them for you.

 

[_sideways_]

You are in a roll _sideways_

I'm enjoying reading your stuff.

And indeed, it is some serious sh*t. I'm a lighthearted and overall happy/funny dude, but the real truth, after you see it, it is hurtfull. And it is bitter as well.

But then when you understand stuff, you can be happy again and see people for their true nature, then please yourself and be happy with it!

Lol thanks man....wish i could be in Sao paulo and show u how to do it with those meninas gostosas u got over there.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Taking life seriously and being p!ssed off all the time are not the same thing. There is nothing wrong with taking things "seriously". You can be both a very happy and very serious person at the same time.

Allow me to break it down:

- People who don't take their jobs seriously rarely go very far in their careers.
- People who don't take their health seriously rarely maintain it.
- People who don't take their safety seriously rarely live very long.
- People who don't take their money seriously rarely keep any of it.

Is this starting to make sense? Good.

Women have qualities men should NEVER want to have and if they do have them then they're beta faggots. Sorry but that's just how it is.

 

[NewToTheGame]

There is an aspect of the OP that I think is really important.

To elaborate: a big turning point for me in my experiences with women was when I just started to laugh at their absurdity. This doesn't mean I have stopped getting women, it just means that when something goes south with them, I chalk it up as just another crazy girl and laugh it off--rather than sinking into a death spiral of analysis. Having a few women around really helps with this.

On the other hand, there are things I do to improve my life that I take very seriously: career moves, the gym, a good diet, etc. And these things do help me with women, tremendously.

I just don't take my individual interactions with women that seriously to the point where I'm analyzing every move and whining about the modern state of women. It doesn't get me anywhere when I do that. I've done it in the past, you can read the threads, lol. But I've learned that a chick has to deserve being taken seriously, and until one does, its all fun and games to me.

 

[acrobatjester]

Taking life seriously and being p!ssed off all the time are not the same thing. There is nothing wrong with taking things "seriously". You can be both a very happy and very serious person at the same time.

Allow me to break it down:

- People who don't take their jobs seriously rarely go very far in their careers.
- People who don't take their health seriously rarely maintain it.
- People who don't take their safety seriously rarely live very long.
- People who don't take their money seriously rarely keep any of it.

Is this starting to make sense? Good.

Correct you do have to at least try at things, improve and do a good job. You missed the point though. Im talking about people who take themselves in general too seriously and think every rejection or failure is personal. Quit your *****ing it isn't that serious. Get back up and do it again. Stop being run by ego. You'll be dead at some point and no one will care.

 

[acrobatjester]

And yes don't hate other people its a waste of time.