is it afc to.....

[OddManOut85]

to want love? to want to meet that right girl? in believing in the one? that yes,there is someone out there for everyone? whether your the worlds biggest and best pua/pimp/pua or a total wbafc,is it afc to feel that way? i mean,ive realized,your not gonna know until you try.and its been long and painful for me to realize that.but i also realize thats what i want in life eventually.to settle down and raise a family.i mean,eventually isnt that what most,if not all people want?

 

[Ojete]

who said love is bad?

there's a big difference in being obsessive / dependant / infatuated, to: loving yourself, having your priorities set and also loving a woman who you know loves you back. It is a matter of maturity

 

[OddManOut85]

no one.well,what about,its not that you hate yourself,but your not happy with yourself? what if you cant find someone who loves you back? how mature?

 

[belividere]

who said love is bad?

there's a big difference in being obsessive / dependant / infatuated, to: loving yourself, having your priorities set and also loving a woman who you know loves you back. It is a matter of maturity

Very well said.

I dont really believe in the whole fairy tale, there is only one girl for me, nonsense that disney has been feeding to pre-pubescent teenage girls. Realistically, the best catch in my early 20's might not be the best catch in my late 20's or early 30's; the best catch in my early 30's might not be the best that I can find as a mid 30's man with maturity and possibly wealth, and so on. Yes you can find a girl that you are compatible with and able to grow old with when you are young, but you shouldn't rush into something thinking that the time is right and "soulmates" will last forever. At 27 I'm still happy to be available, even after having several girlfriends try to clench their claws into me.

There is more than the "one" when it comes down to it. There is also nothing wrong with being monogamous despite what some guys on here say. If you are really looking for something long-term and possibly marriage than you should be looking for the best possible partner that you can find and be willing to try an exclusive relationship. This isn't anything new really, I did it with three girls (each for over a year and a half) before I found this site. They all had there positives and negatives but in the end I didn't find any of them worth marriage. What I did figure out though is what I expect in a women and what I am willing to sacrifice in myself. The best preparation is experience not what someone says on the internet or what lonely PUAs tell you.

 

[MightyMate]

Lovie is bad. Always neds bad for men.

 

[sexy_kuta]

Lovie is bad.

LOl so is sex! hahah

 

[Triumph]

yes it is AFC

 

[Ace of Flames]

I'm gonna tell you straight up.

Its good to want love. Love is a wonderful thing, why shouldn't we want it? Nothing wrong with it. Love can really make life that much better. Its a double-edged sword though, because love can turn on you. Its all nice and dandy when its good, but when its bad, its really bad. When you fall in love, be prepared for when love throws you back.

Now, its very, very bad to NEED love. Its bad because, typically, if you need love, you'll never get it. Ironic, eh? If you're sitting there thinking you NEED a girlfriend or you NEED to get married, then kiss it goodbye right now, cuz its never gonna happen. Don't pine for "the one". Its not healthy. To love and desire someone you've never met because she's just a figment of your imagination... I could never go thru with that.

So the answer is no, its not AFC to want love. You're confused because AFC's think they NEED love.



And that just might be the real reason as to why they are "AFC" in the first place. Hmm.