"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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is it a sign of interest when a girl busts your balls?

mungro

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When approaching and dealing with girls, I use the common methods of teasing girls and making ****y + funny comments. I don't use neg hits too harshly but I use them subtly to keep the girls "blushing" and modest.

But recently I've encountered a girl that's really cute in all ways... but I've detected what might be, dare I say, some interest....

She seems to actually try to tease me back which is interesting cause it doesn't happen too often. She doesn't do it a lot... once in awhile, she'll slide in a witty remark. For instance, I'll mention some friends, and she'll say, "I thought you didn't have any friends besides me?" Or, she'll pretend that she doesn't like something I'm wearing and call me "dorky". Or she'll call me and tell me I'm a "jerk" for doing something...

Is this good for interest level? Or is this some bizarre alternate route for the friend's zone? Cause this girl is pretty damn hot, and lets face it, I don't think I've encountered many hot girls that have that kind of wit... maybe its just me tho.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Phat

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yehh.. it looks like this girl is a player too.
 

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Yep thats some IL... escalate to know how much.
 

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also, I know this sounds pathetic... but I'm just inexperienced with deflecting this teasing... but each time this girl does this sorta stuff... I just can't come up with a good way to react. I would like to say something smooth... but I just say stuff like, "oohhh, alright. I see how it is."

Is there anything else that I can do?
 

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Its verbal foreplay - takes practice like anything else. Try throwing some back at her and by trial-and-error you'll figure it out over time.

There is no real canned reponse we can give you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Take whatever she says and throw it right back at her. She's definitely interested, but here is the part where she throws the tests at you and if you pass, there's a good reward. When she teases you, throw the same line back in her face.

Example:

HB: I thought I was your only friend
U: (sarcastic tone) you know that's funny, all this time I thought "I" was YOUR only friend.


You get the idea, the key is to come up with anything to keep the attraction elevating, keep it going.



PIMP
 

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She might be interested. She might not be too. I tease people that way...always have. It doesn't mean I'm interested in a guy, though...it's just my personality.

Now that I think about it...guys do tend to think I'm flirting when I'm just being a smart ass. When I was waitressing at this one place they had this wooden rooster that was sitting on the counter in front of the big brick oven. I used to mess with the oven cooks on a regular basis when things were slow...to entertain myself. I would call them over to the counter and tell them to smell the rooster. They always would smell it. Then I'd say, "Ewww...c*ck sniffer!" and smirk and walk off. It usually would only work one time per cook...but there was a high turnover.

As for this girl...don't rely on her teasing by itself to judge interest. She could be like me and just like messing with people like that without it meaning anything.
 

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U just need practise budd. I used to have probs like this. But after I started approaching a lot more girl, and just talking or messing with them I got a whole lot better with my game. Don't be afraid to be ****y around this one though.
 
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