"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is it a mistake?

ronp78

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On the third date, to suggest that I cook for the girl at my house? (I'm 37)

Does cooking for her show subservience and an eagerness to please, or is it the perfect setting for romancing her and then we can take it to the boom boom room afterwards?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ronp78

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No. Need to get her alone first. Kissing on 2nd date was quite good, and reciprocated by her
 

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I personally think its a great move. Its a perfect excuse to get her to your place so that you can then escalate. The fact that you are using "cooking for her" as the reason gives her plausible deniability. I use similar tactics which have worked great.
 

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Cookings a great move. Doesn't matter whether it's the first, second, or after a year.

Cooking is ALWAYS a winner in a woman's eyes. It doesn't suggest you're trying to impress or please. You cook because YOU CAN.

Of course, give a great reason to cook. Tell her, "I just thought of this great self-made dish, wanna try?"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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