"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is it a date or just hanging out as friends?

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How do you know if youre getting dinner/coffee/whatever just as friends or a date?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mr. Debonaire

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just do your thing, confidence as always. make fun of her, flirt like a fiend, etc, etc.

If your doing things right, then it turns into a date, as she will start responding in the right way.
 

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Alright gotcha..

Thanks, I appreciate it
 

dannowillbookem

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you decide its a date. you dont let her decide that, what is she the man here?

you call it a date and its a date. if shes uncomfortable with that, then you saved yourself the time wasted getting together as "friends"
 

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How About You Stop Imagining What It Would Be Like And Go Approach And Experience It For Yourself, You God Damned Idiot.

Edit: Apparently the forum doesn't allow one to post in all caps.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Skilla_Staz

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Ah thank you Lik. You people over analyze WAY to f*cking much. Just do what you do baby.
 

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Like everyone else says: MAKE IT A DATE! Use Kino and neg hits to draw a clear line, but most of all, don't stress about it. I know it's hard to tell yourself not to stress, but take deep breaths and REMEMBER: She is just one of a thousand women you will meet in the future. There is nothing special about her. You are the prize. If it doesn't work out, NEXT. Sarge on!
 

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LikRetsam said:
How About You Stop Imagining What It Would Be Like And Go Approach And Experience It For Yourself, You God Damned Idiot.

Edit: Apparently the forum doesn't allow one to post in all caps.
Was this directed towards me? I havent been imagining what it would be like to go on a date, i've been on them before. I dont know what the **** youre talking about to be honest.



Everyone thanks for the input, I appreciate it!!
 

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Tell her it's a date. As in;

"[organises something like coffee whatever]. It's a date ;) See you then."

Honesty's a good thing.
 
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