Is interest level a benign or cancerous tumor?

[saki]

Going through old posts, this question has not left my mind;

Can interest grow or is it fixed?

If a girl has mediocre interest in me, can I convert this to high interest or must they have very high initial attraction for the relastionship to be worth a damn?

I think AD would definatley say fixed, but what is the purpose of this forum if we cannot improve our strategy? Can we not make a women fall in love with us? Havent you ever met someone you hated initially but then you became best friends with this person? Have you ever met an average looking girl but then when you got to know her she was all of a sudden an HB10?

Seriously guys, what is the point in all these tips and strategies if we have to have astronomical high interest to begin with? Im wondering if it is indeed this simple?

Every girl I have ever really liked, didnt like me back. Every girl I didnt like, usually liked me. What is with this paradox. I am beginning to think this is the yin and yang principle, must there be opposition?

 

[ScrewIt]

Going through old posts, this question has not left my mind;

Can interest grow or is it fixed?

If a girl has mediocre interest in me, can I convert this to high interest or must they have very high initial attraction for the relastionship to be worth a damn?

interest can grow, that's whre unpredictability and mystery comes in play...it helps to add to your value.
attraction = perceived value.

Every girl I have ever really liked, didnt like me back. Every girl I didnt like, usually liked me. What is with this paradox. I am beginning to think this is the yin and yang principle, must there be opposition?

simple, people want what they cant have. it is like yinyang, anything requires balance, coming on too strong on a woman will just backfire.

 

[hardrockfan]

Interest level changes. It can grow or shrink depending on how you advance. Interest level is simply used to remind you that sometimes you can exhaust yourself on a girl that in the end would not be worth your time because she could care less.

It is simply used in the forums to keep guys from settling for too less but also to know when you are wasting your time.

Of course love is a goal. But you shouldn't be looking for it, it should come in time as you develop a relationship. We aren't talking about being a bunch of sluts and having sex with a girl once and leaving them for the next big thing. That's not what any of this is about. If you have a good feeling about a girl, then by all means continue on. Which also goes back to the intrest level thing. Trust your feelings, know when you have a good thing, and know when you need to bail out and move on.