"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is inexperience that bad?

decentguy

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It's been often said on this site that men who are inexperienced shouldn't get into long term relationships or marriage. However, what if you're a man who qualifies as a Don Juan, meaning you're successful, happy and confident with your life without the need for women, and happen to meet a girl with whom things click and end up being in a relationship and marrying her?

What if you're just lucky enough to meet a potential Mrs. Right early on without necessarily having slept with many girls?

I'd love to know what the more experienced Don Juans think about this.

EDIT: Just to clarify things, this is not a situation I'm currently in. It's something I've been wondering about.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Experience Rules

U have the foundation to the DJ mind set (having a life outside women first and foremost).

HOWEVER, without recent dating experience you are bound to fall for newbie mistakes. Plenty of successful men get BURNED by women they thought were worthy.

EXPERIENCE can't be taught, you can learn from others who have made mistakes to avoid the same pitfalls.

SKILLSET-a fundamental understanding of how attraction works is essential to seducing women.

CAUTION WARNING-by investing all your time in ONE woman you risk getting infected by ONEITIS virus. Date a few at the same time, then if U decide narrow it down to one.........down the road.
 
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Kevin Feng

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Not at all, if you find ms. right, there's no reason to let her go at all whatsoever, as a matter of fact, I would actually encourage you develop the relationship because once you do that and sex becomes comfortable between both parties, this will give you an opportunity to practice your "sex game" if you will, the more experience you have in bed, the more confidence you will have in turn.

At this point right now, you want to be experienced both with your game and also sex, it's a huge turnoff for women when you don't know what you're doing in bed.

It sounds like you've found the right girl and you're trying to get her in the sack, Asian Playboy had this really useful article on anti-LMR tactics

http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2007/01/another-apb-bootcamp-lay-anti-lmr-and.html

Hope this helps, PM me if you have any questions.

-Kevin
 

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Thanks guys, as a rAFC, this is all new territory for me. Better late than never!
 
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it is IMPOSSIBLE to call yourself successful with women if you are inexperienced.

Until you become successful with women, and know exactly how they all think, only then will you find your true love (and in the process avoid having some b1tch who you committed to leave you and deceive you)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have to say, I'm starting to feel old. I'll be 26 soon and I've only been with 1 girl in my entire life. I regret not having enjoyed my "youth" a bit more but I want to change that now.
 
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