"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is independence attractive?

donjuanapprentice01

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I don't have many friends, so I do almost everything by myself (playing golf, going to the beach, going to movies, even the occasional eating out alone) and it got me wondering... most people think that this is being wierd or creepy, but doesn't that portray the opposite, in other words, doesn't that show that you are confortable in your own skin, that you don't need a person with you to enjoy things? I think it does tbh... What's your guys opinion?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cinamon

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Usually when a guy says they don't hang out with other people I usually think they are either of the mentality that they are too good for everyone else or seriously lack social skills. I don't think many people would do stuff alone out of choice and therefore can't figure out why anyone else would.
 

donjuanapprentice01

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Well, I never "say" I don't hang out with anyone... just naturally happens that I do the majority of my activities alone.
 

WhitePimp

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I don't think it's creepy, but then again, I'm a pretty similar person (I do enjoy hanging with my friends/other people more, but I also crave those moments when I can be alone with my thoughts and just observe in solitude - these are more outdoorsy types of moments though).

If you enjoy it, then don't worry about it man. If you want to do something and no one else wants to, that shouldn't stop you from enjoying yourself. But be prepared to be labeled as creepy, or loner. Or just refrain from telling people your activities or that you went alone.
 

FunnyMan

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Do what you enjoy.

I personally enjoy being social but a also love having some time to myself alone
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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