DrStranglove
Don Juan
So my 2 year LTR ended last Thursday, basically on our 2 year anniversary, because the relationship wasn't progressing fast enough for her (she's 31, enough said). Said she promised herself to end it if things hadn't improved by that point. We've been on borrowed time over this for the past six months, she's been pulling away, its caused a few mini-break ups, etc. I handled it well, telling her I thought we could fix the issues but if she wanted to leave I wouldn't stop her. She told me she wasn't changing her mind this time, so I politely told her OK have a nice night then got off the phone.
Fast forward five days later to yesterday and suddenly (I maintained no contact to all of this):
- Missed call at 11am
- Two calls back to back at 4pm on her way to work
- Texts right after the two calls about her job.
- Texts again 20 min later saying "Thought we would stay friends, but if you don't want to talk let me know!"
- Calls again at 10:30pm after work
- Immediately texts "So were not even on speaking terms I guess, I think the next time I'm on facebook I will just unfriend you then.. no sense in being friends if we aren't even on speaking terms. Hope things are going as well for you as they are for me!"
I know her, and the delete from facebook threat and "I'm doing so well" are her attempts at a power grab to get me to reply. She's quite manipulative. She has legitimate anxiety issues and going cold/distant in the past would make her go nuts (noting her IL was higher then).
Should I maintain radio silence and watch how much she squirms, or attempt to talk things out (which has worked in the past)?
Fast forward five days later to yesterday and suddenly (I maintained no contact to all of this):
- Missed call at 11am
- Two calls back to back at 4pm on her way to work
- Texts right after the two calls about her job.
- Texts again 20 min later saying "Thought we would stay friends, but if you don't want to talk let me know!"
- Calls again at 10:30pm after work
- Immediately texts "So were not even on speaking terms I guess, I think the next time I'm on facebook I will just unfriend you then.. no sense in being friends if we aren't even on speaking terms. Hope things are going as well for you as they are for me!"
I know her, and the delete from facebook threat and "I'm doing so well" are her attempts at a power grab to get me to reply. She's quite manipulative. She has legitimate anxiety issues and going cold/distant in the past would make her go nuts (noting her IL was higher then).
Should I maintain radio silence and watch how much she squirms, or attempt to talk things out (which has worked in the past)?