Is girls disappearing common?

[SoSerene]

I don't mean after like a few dates where they kind of drift off because both parties know the date was bad and you just leave it like that. I mean a girl you've been out with 8 times over a month, you've met pretty much all of her friends, every date went well and she showed high interest level throughout. Then you agree to meet up for date #9...she gets called in for a shift super early the next morning so has to reschedule the date for earlier in the evening but the guy is busier until late so they agree to meet another day. And then after that...the girl slowly distances herself and is suddenly "busy" all the time, never initiating texts, and then that's it.

This has just happened to me and I have no clue why she would just drop off like that. Is this common especially for this many dates? Again, I reiterate it's not like the last date we went on was bad or something and that's why things ended....we had a great time and she was eager to schedule another meet up.

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

8 days in 1 month is way to much. She probably grew bored of you and moved on. When you're not offering new and exciting things for women, and when you don't give them the chance to miss you, they're gonna grow bored. Everything will seem great at face-value, but in reality they're already looking for someone new to date.

Never date more than once a week (4 times a month). Preferably less. Maybe one week you'll have to cancel because you're "busy" (if you're not actually busy, you'll just pretend you are). That way you wont see too available and too needy to her and she will think you have an actual life that doesn't revolve around her.

Question: After these 8 dates, have you f*cked her at least several times? You should have. If you haven't then that is also a problem.

 

[Tiguere]

Girl dissappear = another c0ck entered the scene

 

[SoSerene]

Actually I just looked back...and it was 8 meet ups in just over 3 weeks! (23 days). You're right I made myself way too available. In my defense, I only actually initiated about 4-5 dates on my own...the other 3 were her inviting me out to the club/bar where her friends were at semi last minute I could've easily said no to some or all of them.

She is a conservative culture so we only hooked up a couple times...didn't actually get anything past a makeout till date 5. I could've pushed through some of the resistance and got laid at date 4 maybe...but I just thought "ah well, I'll see her in 3 days anyway so I'll just wait then when it will be easier!"

I admit that most of my dating patterns were 1-1.5x/week, and that's it. And getting laid earlier than date 5 or 6 and those seemed to keep the girls interested and the dates fun and exciting. With this girl we pretty much burned through most of the fun night time activities in the city all in a span of about 2 weeks! It already felt like we were recycling date ideas we had done 3x before already. If we were going out less often, it would keep everything a lot more fresh and keep a lot more mystery going.

 

[SoSerene]

Girl dissappear = another c0ck entered the scene

Yeah definitely think she is seeing someone else. I'm sure she got bored with everything since we hung out like 24/7.

She hasn't even responded to my last text regarding meeting up tomorrow...so I'm guessing that's that. I'm going to go full no contact.

 

[nismo-4]

Yes.

Because another man showed up and he's better than you. Your princess is in another castle.

Case closed.