"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is getting married a bad idea?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bingo-Player
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i am not joking
apart from the obvious financial problems it starts , women these days are way too mentally unstable to become bonafied wife material
if you need kids for fulfilment then attempt to find someone you can actually put up with for the next 60 years
if not adopt ......which is what i am planning
Between_The_Lines
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The more seasoned posters will give you much better advice, I'm expecting.
If you're a man who plans to go places in life and be financially set later.. then getting married is an ignorant and moronic thing to do. Basically everything you've built your entire life can be flushed away by some twhat who decided she isn't happy anymore.
On top of that.. you have to commit to ONE vagina and remove all your sexual alternatives from the equation to "make her happy". ONE vagina that loses value by the day as she gets older. 25 year olds don't stay 25 for life.
What logical reason is there to get married? All reasons are emotional and based on social, family and societal pressure. Things only betas would give a sh!t about... since betas are pawns and will always "fall in line" to be a woman's b!tch, society's b!tch or the Government's b!tch.. if it helps his image and makes him look like a hero.
Sorry but "everyone else is doing it" is an excuse we should all stop using after age 7. :crackup:
Bingo-Player
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RangerMIke
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To say its a terrible idea and swear off it is a little narrow minded. Sure feminism, media, society have turned men into the enemy who are no good and should bend to a women's will, but that doesn't mean you can't make marriage benefit you.
There are some people are work hard, are well off, get married, have children, and have 25 year old mistresses.
So if you want to get married, get married. But, as in any other deal, protect yourself. If you don't protect yourself, she will decide one day the sky is blue and she is bored, she will call the State, Government and Media to absolutely destroy you. Also, don't expect because you are married she cares about you or will be there when times get rough. She only cares about her image.
So yes, ideally marriage does not benefit men nowadays, as women only care about what's in it for them, but that doesn't mean you can't be smart enough to use it to your advantage.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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logicallefty
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- When it's at minimum 50% men and 50% women initiating divorce and not 70% women....
- When family courts start making women, and men, go through rigorous psych evals to determine who gets custody of children....
- When women, and men, who get busted cheating on their partner get a criminal conviction attached to their record that follows them the rest of their lives
- When women, and men, who accuse people of domestic violence are court ordered to take polygraph evals....
- When there is a nation wide background check system to query every county in every state to see if they are already married to someone else to prevent bigamy (coming from the guy who married a bigamist, the only one on SS that I know of)
Yeah, then I will say getting married may be an option....
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Well I'll tell you this, when I was married, I told my single friends to NEVER GET MARRIED. EVER. did say i say n-e-v-e-r?
Now that I'm single again, the thought crosses my mind on and off. The fact that there is a terrible amount of awful girls MEANS there is an amount of non awful girls.
As an accountant for every debit there is always a corresponding. . . ? you answered right, there's always a credit.
If you can find one of these rare girls then date for almost forever really and never promise a future so they don't put up an act till you pop the question, she shouldn't even know there could be a confirmed future (marriage).
Date her for years, 2-3 minimum, seriously! and sign a fcuking prenup SERIOUSLY!
Is getting married a bad idea? Of course not, don't be silly. It's a gamble.
If you find a good woman, it'd be the best experience of your life, no joke.
If you settle with a bad woman, it'd be the very fcuking worst experience of your life, no joke.
While you're in limbo, PLEASE DO NOT IMPREGNANT A GIRL YOU WONT SETTLE WITH.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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1. You should have dated at least 2 years or more prior to proposing. Women can hide their red flags for that long, and then pull the mask off, revealing their real personality once the ring is on the finger.
2. You should be engaged a year or more prior to tying the knot - and living together. She needs a final test run before she gets your last name.
3. You also should be married more than 3 years before trying to have kids. Nothing worse than bringing life into this world with someone you might grow to hate a year after the wedding is over.
4. You should be over 30 when you tie the knot. There is too much tail to chase in your 20’s to settle down.
5. Don’t marry a fat woman. If she’s lazy with her body, she’s also going to be lazy in other parts of her life, most notably her marriage to you.
6. Don’t marry a divorced woman. Ever. She has proven herself not capable of making a “till death to us part” commitment work in the past. You can, however, be given a free pass if she's widowed.
7. Don’t marry a woman with kids. No need to explain this one.
8. Don’t marry (let alone date) someone you work with.
9. If you are rich (making over $100K per year) get a goddamn prenup.
10. Don't marry a woman under 23 (she's too young), don't marry a woman over 43 (she's too old).
11. Watch how her mother treats her father. This is how she is going to treat you. Don't like it? Are they Divorced? Run!
12. Watch how her father treats your future wife. Bad relationship? Run!
13. Does all she talk about is big weddings, big diamond engagement rings, big houses, and other surface/material things? Run!
14. Does she not have a real job? Run!
15. Has she dealt with depression at some point in her life? Run!
16. Does she take any mood stabilizing drugs? Run!
17. Has she cheated on past boyfriends? Run!
18. Does she do drugs and can drink you under the table? Run!
19. Does she have no real friends? Run!
20. Most importantly - Don't ever marry woman who tries to control you or change you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.