Is game playing a conscious thing by girls?

[vorbis]

Been thinking about this the past few days. Hooking up with a decent girl here in the states requires you play certain games. "Don't contact her too much, act like you don't care about her, push pull stuff etc. The thing is, with most guys I know who can play the game well, ****ing the girl becomes the prize for "winning" the game.

After that, their interest in the girl plummets. I find the same happening to me, any girl I have to run a lot of game on, I find myself not really caring about her. If she doesn't give it up within a few dates, I'm outta there as theres no real connection there. The thing is if the girl was more real as in contacting me first, showing high interest and generally being fun, I'd stick around.

SO to my question. Do women realise this and explicitly play games when they want a STR. After all when the guy as expected doesn't call back, she can blame him. There'd also be a very low chance of the guy turning needy. Is female game playing designed to pick up male sluts? :rockon:

After all, when a chick gets older (30+), she starts to act as a friend put it "a bit needier", the kind of behaviour more conducive to finding a guy for a ltr.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Sounds like you are more interested in playing the game than who you are playing it with. The level of game playing is in inverse proportion to either her level of self-confidence or trust if she's interested. If she isn't interested, game playing is just an escape mechanism.

 

[Thomas94305]

I don't think explicit game playing is coming out. The negatives about women are probably asserting themselves. They are trying to figure out exactly what they want in a relationship. Plus, most women just don't know how to be interesting to a guy. Many are not romantic. Many don't have personal interests. You ask them to share in picking date activities, they'll often just pick dinner or a movie (yawn), or they passively go along.

And.. what you pointed out, calling back; most don't realize it's a big deal if they don't call back or break a date. They figure, no time lost, no harm done. The guy is free to just call back. From our side.. it's disrespect and rejection, a big deal. I've had conversations with women I've dated about this. They bring up that they don't want to seem "too easy", their anti slut defense. I've said "if you don't want to seem too easy, just don't jump into bed right away, that's simple.. But, show some class and keep your word. Breaking a date is simply unattractive, it shows you can't be counted on."

Best I've found is to first accept that women really don't know much about relationships; I'm believing that we are the fairer sex. They insist on romance, but don't have a clue as to what that is, whereas we figure out how to make it happen. Set limits like if she breaks 2 dates (or whatever your number is), then don't call her back. Find ways to tell her you don't respect her games without showing anger, but that you will just call up others who have better character, etc. And, whether or not she blames the guy is not our problem.

In short, if she's playing games, recognize her as a STR at best.

 

[00Kevin]

Women do not act our of their conscious. They are brain washed to the point where their subconscious is damaged. The sad problem is that you can't rationalize with them and hope that they will change. Their emotions are connected to their illogical feminized perspectives.

This isn't true of non americanized women. Which is good news. With a non americanized chick there are NO games like the ones you described.
You can just be yourself and the girls will love you. They will even move to your country, cook, clean, and... xxx

 

[00Kevin]

Americanized women are too immature.

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[Kevin Cass]

dude kevin do u have a non american woman. hey how come evry time i think about east europe the movie hostel runs through my head..talk about turn off..and my gf is from montenegro..

 

[Kevin Cass]

or the movie eurotrip where they got like mad **** at a hotel for 18 cents hahaha. then the guy quit cuz he got a nickel "look at this! this is a nickel! i will quit!" then he slapped his boss

 

[Kevin Cass]

maybe hes talking about italian girls?

 

[Ripper]

This isn't true of non americanized women. Which is good news. With a non americanized chick there are NO games like the ones you described.
You can just be yourself and the girls will love you. They will even move to your country, cook, clean, and... xxx

This is the most ridiculous generalisation. I live in the UK and know hundreds of girls that play games.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

maybe hes talking about italian girls?

I've always loved Italian bellas...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This is the most ridiculous generalisation. I live in the UK and know hundreds of girls that play games.

I'll attest to the game players in the UK but in Italy, Greece and Spain, it's quite another thing most of the time. The thing is you have to have to come correct when you sarge these women.

 

[aix237]

girls play games on purpose all the fvcking time. Ive also had convos about it. They always say i dont want to be to available and all that bs. That just basically means you probably wont like me as a person so i have to fvck with your mind to get you to like me. Ive gotten with girls that are very attractive with no games ever being played just cause their was such good chemistry then ive became attracted to girls just for the fact of them playing games otherwise i wouldnt give a sh!t about them.

Playing games never fails though if you do it right. i only play them if they do. the best thing you can do is just fvcking ignore them straight up after you gave them a tiny bit of attention and they will come to you no doubt. Ive has girls talk sh!t about me and when i see them out im like fine you wanna talk sh!t i aint saying anything. then theyll come up and start talking.
the best sh!t was on new years out of the blue i saw my ex with her "bf" total douche anyways i was like fvck this b!tch. I admit she had the upper hand on everything when we broke up called me I told her to come over she did we fvcked still then she just cut it off right when she found her new man which was fvcking her two bf's when i was with her. she was in the very front i saw her in line waiting to get in i just walked right by her looking straight ahead and from what my friend told me she was pissed. she refuses to talk and stuff then she gets pissed when i dont say a word. i felt kind of bad afterwards but she deserved that sh!t.