Is flipping off a girl, overstepping my bounds ?

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let me explain, last night i went out to one of my favorite night spots. The place was dead other than a few people over by the bar and pool tables. so at first i'm chilling by the bar, chatting up a girl that used to serve drinks at the club. we hit it off great but she and some friends left to go to another club. no number close just yet. i'll get it some other time. I didn't go with them to the other club because well I was broke. but it was all good anyways.

well, as the night goes on I make my way over to one of the pool tables were this really cute, little pettite blonde is playing pool with two other guys. right when i approach, the table she introduces herself to me, and also introduces me to the other guys at the table. From then till about an hour later, she and i are flirting. I mean shes sharing drinks with me, she kissed me on the cheak, and i'm just generally teasing and talking ****.

then, out of the blue while she's about to make a shot I flip her off. then the problems start. see, i don't know whether shes flirting with me by doing what she does next or if she thought i was a jerk. then she runs to the bar and tells one of the bouncers that i'm hassling her. I end up getting kicked out of the bar.

I just don't know what to think of this? Man i really liked that girl.

 

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this girl is giving me oneitis. when i see again i'm just going to play it cool and not even bring up the subject. maybe we were both too drunk !!

 

[School]

THIS GIRL GOT YOU KICKED OUT OF A BAR!!!!!! Move ON!!!!!! Big Time!

 

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why the **** would she get me kicked out though? does she like being in control?


or, did she just think I was jerk and being degrading by flipping her off?

.........i guess the world will never know

see i don't have a problem walking away school, but the truth is actually really enjoyed being around her. she was just a genuinally fun person

 

[School]

Well, I'll say, I think you blew your chances with this chick. Let it go. It's not tlike you spent so much time together... It was one night, and she got you fvcking thrown out of a bar!!! Let go!!

 

[DrDope]

Originally posted by up and coming
she was just a genuinally fun person

Until the part when she got your arse thrown out of the bar.

She must have a lot of pull with the bouncers. I'm surprised that they just threw you out for such a minor offense without warning. I would think they wouldn't want to lose your business unless you were really making a scene. Are you telling us the whole story?

 

[School]

I think something is missing from the story....Maybe you thought she was into you and she really wasn't.....Maybe you were following her around and trying to game her up and got on her nerve....Something is missing.....Tell all....

 

[Julian]

what a dumb *****.

 

[Luveno]

Based on what you've told us, assuming that you didn't leave anything out, and that you have adequate game, we can come to the following conclusions:

1. If she perceives anything as an insult, she will go to the bouncers(who are all over her: where I'm from, Bouncers are the biggest AFCs! Their train of thought is "if I do whatever she wants and get her into the club for free then maybe she'll have sex with me") and exercise her power over others, just to get a rise.

2. She genuinely is against people flipping her off. This is crazy but maybe it just bugs her more than anything.

3. She was just joshin ya.


I'm gonna go with #1. It seems the most likely based on field experience and the stories of other DJs. I'd move on and not give this girl the time of day.

 

[Hellboy]

What's flipping off?

 

[School]

The BIG BAD MIDDLE FINGER!!!!

 

[Hellboy]

That's what I thought. :kick:

 

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I think something is missing from the story....Maybe you thought she was into you and she really wasn't.--school

vary possible......


I think luveno is right also...


NEXT

 

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OUt of the 3 guys that were with her that night, I know that I had better game than any of the others. One guy was a friend that she knew since grade school. He was in a whellchair (no offense to any don juan out there in wheel chairs) but he didn't have any game. and the other guy was just sitting there the whole night watching her. Now it is quite possible that she was more attracted to him than me but I just didn't see him making any moves.

Or it could be she is just naturally flirtatious to everybody. and that she didn't want to be hit on that night.

 

[School]

Forgettaboutit!! She had you thrown out of a bar!!! What more of a sign do you need to show you this girl isn't into you??

 

[jprjrjr]

Why did you flip her off? I mean I can understand goofing around, but I wouldn't flip somebody off, even jokingly after meeting them for the first time.

 

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she was the type of person that you just immediately felt comfortable with, I guess I was just trying to be funny. I honestly didn't think she would take it seriously.

 

[DrDope]

Did it strike you that you had assessed her personality incorrectly when the bouncer picked you up by the scruff of the neck and your beltloop and chucked you out?

 

[School]

Did it strike you that you had assessed her personality incorrectly when the bouncer picked you up by the scruff of the neck and your beltloop and chucked you out?

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

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