"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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is Facebook trying to discourage online hook-ups?

nkh78h

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This is probably pretty old, but:

If you try to add someone on Facebook, you'll get the following message:

(name) will have to confirm your request. Please only send this request if you know (name) personally.
The bolded part wasn't there until a few weeks ago. Moreover, some profiles give a more serious message:

If you send a request to a stranger, it will be considered spam and your friend request will be blocked temporarily. Please only send this request if you know this user.

If you send a request to a stranger, it will be considered spam and your friend request will be blocked temporarily. Please only send this request if you know this user.
I've never seen this before. What's even more scary is that Facebook Help now says:

If you’ve been prevented from adding friends on Facebook, it’s likely because many friend requests you’ve sent recently have gone unanswered. This may be because you’ve sent friend requests to strangers, or it may be due to other behavior that Facebook members have reported as unwelcome.

You’ll be allowed to add friends again soon. At that time, please remember to only send friend requests and messages to people who you already know personally. Otherwise, additional limits may be placed on your account.
Facebook might as well remove "Friendship" from the "Interested in..." options. I understand that they want people to be careful with who they contact on the Interwebs, but telling people not to add "strangers" seems a little too far (maybe it's for legal reasons or something).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CoolBlue

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Stop being a stalker. You know you can actually send them a message if you are interested in them right? If that's what they are looking for they will give you a reply.
 

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Do you remember what ruined MySpace?

It was the porn companies and virus-spreaders that mass-spammed "strangers" with "hey check out my sexy p!cs" messages.

That is what FaceBook is trying to avoid.

FaceBook is a sh!tty medium for meeting people anyway. It's designed to keep you up the asses of your current friends, not to meet new people.

The best you can do on FB is network with friends of friends or maybe with old classmates or something. I don't see how you're getting any "results" random-messaging girls on FB.
 

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squirrels said:
Do you remember what ruined MySpace?

It was the porn companies and virus-spreaders that mass-spammed "strangers" with "hey check out my sexy p!cs" messages.

That is what FaceBook is trying to avoid.

FaceBook is a sh!tty medium for meeting people anyway. It's designed to keep you up the asses of your current friends, not to meet new people.

The best you can do on FB is network with friends of friends or maybe with old classmates or something. I don't see how you're getting any "results" random-messaging girls on FB.
Agreed, that's why I'm not on it.
 
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