Is eye contact really a sign of interest?

[Snowman23]

At work for example, I get a lot of looks from women, not really smiles though. Like I've caught their attention. So I don't know if it's because I walked into the room, or because they think I'm attractive, or what. But I've never once been approached.

The reason I'm asking is because I don't want to walk up to them like a retard if they aren't interested. I like to know where I stand before I go in for the kill.

I'm a very observative person so I notice they look at me, but it doesn't necessarily mean they like me.

 

[Bonafide]

same situation here

 

[IPalindromeI]

Eye contact without a smile usually means hostility, a challenge, an attempt at dominance, general curiosity, or simply someone standing their ground. If you are getting this - it is disinterest. These are women who are flat out not interested. If you smile, you will either be met with a half assed smile or hostility.

If you are getting 'coy' eye contact that comes with a smile, and a 'looking away' followed by more eye contact, that is a 'come meet me I'm interested' signal. These are girls who are interested, but shy and/or afraid of rejection - they flirt, show teeth, lick lips (slightly, not lasciviously). When you smile, they smile back and are receptive.

If you are in a professional, or even a social setting, and you are getting smiles with lots of eye contact, it probably means 'I'm interested in what you are saying' but not necessarily 'I'm interested in you'. These are girls who are not interested in you and rejection isn't an issue. They are smiling to be nice. When you smile, their smile might falter lest they give you the wrong idea.

If you get a solid smile by unbroken eye contact, and you are in a business situation ie: trying to pick up girls working for commission, bartenders, or shop girls, or strippers then you are probably getting the 'come spend your money' signals. If you smile, they smile back as long as you are spending money.

If you want to see which it is, smile. The reception to that smile will tell you all you want to know. I wouldn't suggest approaching if you get anything less than a genuine smile back. Some people smile reflexively. Don't mistake that for the real deal.

 

[DefiantIronist]

Assume she's into you until proven otherwise (aka sprout some testes and approach). How does SHE even know if she's interested when she hasn't met you? She'll likely NEVER be interested if you don't approach.

That being said, know how to do eye contact and smiling first instead of letting her control the social dynamic - if she looks at you flatly and you smile at her, she'll probably smile back. BAM! You are in control. Approach.

Don't let em shoot you down before you get off the ground dude!