Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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is ex stalking me?

Silko

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Hello

I posted last year several post on ex that broke up with me exactly 1 year ago.
It was a tough time.

Regardless she decided herself to break up, she bothered me a lot. She searches again and again my attention. Since 4 months I do nothing anymore. I remove her from all social media.
I continue my life.
I had to block her few weeks ago on Instagram cause she started to stalk me there.

She was furious and mailed me shortly ... "you never hear me again, promised". I just told her she hurted me a lot by liking a specific image on Instagram. I thought I could be a bit human again now telling what I felt.

3 nights ago, she sent me 2 big e-mails. she apologises for her (stalking) behaviour. She also told, although she broke up herself (now 1 year ago), the break up hurted her even more, and she can;t move on. But she knows it is still the right choice and wont repair anything.
She asked me to let her know I'm happy again, in order she can be happy too again ????

then a bit later a 2nd very large e-mail. she started to describe our nice passionate time we had. that she was truly in love with me, but she didnt dare to tell me cause she was affraid to scare me. So that's why she staid at distance blablablabla

What's wrong with this person??? I keep quite, I ignore her, and still she find a way to bother me. She search me again and again. I tried to meet her in the past twice. face to face. When meeting and talking on us ... she cuts off and throwed me out. I had to leave.

dont know what to do here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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El Payaso

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She is trying to suck you back in. Hey describing your relationship is just an attempt to reignite old memories in you. That is why it it's important you delete all emails and ignore. Don't even read them. Block her on all platforms. Get a restraining order if you have to.
 
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