"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is craigslist or any online service worth it?

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I am really starting to feel this lack of sex in my life, So I am thinking about hitting up as many dating sites until something happens. I really don't care,as long as I find someone who says yes. I realize,when I have a problem, I don't do much to fix it and I dwell on it too much. But I just need something to ****.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mm,I do and I don't. I have seen the personals, they're are some pretty good looking chicks on there. Which brings me to another conundrum,appearance/looks. I am slightly fat, and have hair on chest and belly. Is that a good look or not?
 
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I know, I must work out, but I am so stubborn and lazy,two of my bigger problems,that I can't even do anything else to make me feel better. I guess I have the mentality people should like me as is,if not,then they're *******s.
 

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No online service is worth it. All you'll find are desperate and/or ugly women. Don't waste your time on it.

What you need to do is take a step out of your comfort zone. Do you have ANY friends to hang out with? You say you're lonely. Maybe you should learn that being alone is not loneliness and there is a difference.

Read Being Alone is Not Loneliness to gain some insight. Finding a woman isn't going to help you one bit, not until you're totally fine with being alone and no longer seeing it as being lonely.
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
I know, I must work out, but I am so stubborn and lazy,two of my bigger problems,that I can't even do anything else to make me feel better. I guess I have the mentality people should like me as is,if not,then they're *******s.
No one is going to like you if you don't like yourself first.

If you liked yourself, you'd do the things that would make you life better, and that the truth. Sometimes the truth is hard to swallow.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Kerpal said:
Craigslist is good if you don't mind fat girls.
Craigslist is the fatest way to gain an STD, the women on there are rancid. :down:
 

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Kerpal said:
How is it any different than hooking up with random guys at bars/clubs?
In the bar scene, if you ain't sexy, rich, or famous, you're at a huge disadvantage, even if you use the advice from here or any other dating website. At least you know the bar women are real women and face to face.

Mostly craigslist is hookers and fakes. If you try to hook up, you'll get a link to that girl's personal website. They try to make you pay for either XXX Blackbook, Fling.com, Hornymatches.com, Webdate, Adult Friend Finder, Singlesnet, or a similar pay-for-porn site.

Even if you do hook up...it could be an undercover cop, you may get robbed or beaten by the girl's pimp, or you'll be paying a lot of money to get laid. That site has a lot of escorts.

Stick with real life.
 
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Kerpal said:
How is it any different than hooking up with random guys at bars/clubs?
Firstly when you meet someone in a bar/club, you instantly know what they look like, they cannot hide behind air-brushed photographs or words on a computer screen. Secondly, most girls in bars and clubs are not after VISA's ect. Craigslist is for men with no ball bags.
 
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I now realize this is some sort of lack of control in my life, a lack of focus and/or discipline caused by some unfullfilled need,the lack of sex has something to do with it. All this talk about being alpha,and in control,when and how does it happen? Is it a mental thing? A physical thing? The set of rules you have for yourself that you will not break? I turn 24 this year, and am at the same place I was 1,2,3,4 years ago. It's this ongoing thing. What can I do?
 

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Cannot believe this guy is still around and making topics.

sheesh
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I don't think online is a very good way to meet girls. A lot of people can be whoever they want to be online...I think in person would be more honest and you'd cut through all the nonsense a lot quicker.
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
mm,I do and I don't.

You complain and complain and complain and complain and complain, are concerned you haven't made a move on any girl, haven't had sex with a girl, that life is passing you by and you haven't had sex, and you haven't had sex the way good looking athletes do in high school, but are telling us you are picky and don't like fat girls?

"Hello cake, can I have you and eat you too?"
 

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I'm sorry but I have to disagree with most of the people here. There are many quality women online and I have dated a few myself. You just have to be prepared to go through a lot before you find on that you like.

Craigslist does seem kind of shady, but sites like Facebook and Myspace are a little more legit and are a better way to message and meet girls. Make sure your profile is setup the way you want (put a bunch of your pics on Hotornot.com and choose the best one). Also, try to make your profile somewhat interesting instead of the usual interests/crap that you would put on there. The point of the online game is to get them on the phone then on a date as quick as possible.

Online dating can be very high yield.
 

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CL works just fine if you know how to use it. Plenty of hot girls. BUT they are all sluts. Head cases. Or freaks. That is my experience. If you want cheap and easy pvssy, go for it. Once you are ready for quality, you got to step up your game and look elsewhere.
 
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