Agreed. Most relationships aren't from a product of "sarging" rather firstly being befriend through employees, friends, family etc.. and then slowly moving into a romantic and sexual state. Meeting a random stranger and then trying to turn into something romantic is kind of rare, but don't let it stop you. Like I said earlier, you will only regret every approach you don't do.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
is cold sarging a normal everyday thing?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I actually think cold approaching seems a little pointless if you're looking for a real relationship. The chances of randomly cold approaching a chick who happens to share your interests/values seem kinda small. If you just want sex, though, I guess it could be useful.
Try to avoid shy girls when you're cold approaching, tho. If you're just looking for sex, you want a friendly target who is likely to be a hor that will put out for you fast.
Try to avoid shy girls when you're cold approaching, tho. If you're just looking for sex, you want a friendly target who is likely to be a hor that will put out for you fast.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Cold approaching doesn't necessarily mean blindly approaching just any woman. Cold approaching is basically stepping up and engaging without introduction from a third party. Take someone sees a woman at a concert. He could approach her with some assurance that they have a common appreciation for the band that's playing. Sarging does not need to be completely random.Obsidian said:
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That's exactly how I feel.
If you're not getting any signals then you shouldn't approach unless she's absoloultley banging and you can't help it.
I make eye contact first or just look in her vecinity and if I get a smile,or a stare or some type of body movement then im there.
Outside of the club,parties,bars,social settings CA's should be done carefully imo..
If you're not getting any signals then you shouldn't approach unless she's absoloultley banging and you can't help it.
I make eye contact first or just look in her vecinity and if I get a smile,or a stare or some type of body movement then im there.
Outside of the club,parties,bars,social settings CA's should be done carefully imo..
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Cold Approaching is "rare" during the day...thats why some girls will seem caught off guard/nervous at first(its like if a hot girl randomly showed up in ur door step naked...it'd be hard to believe), but its what they truly want in the end, its what they fantasize of.
A girl at school i go up to while she is getting food in the cafteria, one time, she'll never forget it...i go up to her...touch her arm and tell her she's cute and she is absolutely flustered about it...blushing ;-). She told all her friends of "The Guy who went up to me and said I was cute" i sadly ran out of things to say at that time since it was the first i ever did that kind of approach.
Its what we typically still talk about whenever i see her around...haha...
Its what they fantasize about, a random situation where a guy, who's got his act together, goes up to them to take an active interest in them. Otherwise, for the girls who get approached quite often, the symps who don't have as much game as we do.....they aren't competition. We got an edge.
Now about guys who cold approach but got game, there are still tons of girls to still go around, thank god most guys don't approach, makes it easier for us.
A girl at school i go up to while she is getting food in the cafteria, one time, she'll never forget it...i go up to her...touch her arm and tell her she's cute and she is absolutely flustered about it...blushing ;-). She told all her friends of "The Guy who went up to me and said I was cute" i sadly ran out of things to say at that time since it was the first i ever did that kind of approach.
Its what we typically still talk about whenever i see her around...haha...
Its what they fantasize about, a random situation where a guy, who's got his act together, goes up to them to take an active interest in them. Otherwise, for the girls who get approached quite often, the symps who don't have as much game as we do.....they aren't competition. We got an edge.
Now about guys who cold approach but got game, there are still tons of girls to still go around, thank god most guys don't approach, makes it easier for us.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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An AFC does not typically approach . (PERIOD!)
There is another category tho... guys that approach, but in a bad way.
A smaller percentage approaches women anywhere, and in a way that will engage the woman.
Cold approaches on the street during the day are rare, especially in the sense of spotting them. Walk around in a happening area of your city, and sooner or later you'll catch a girl or group of girls getting approached.
If i'm in a place where there are women walking around on the street during the day, I'll approach maybe 1-2 girl every 1-2 weeks... so i know for a fact that they do happen, and sometimes in very subtle ways... I mean, if we started off where she was in front of me in line, and by the end of the line we sit down together, would you really even have spotted the 'approach'??? Even if you did notice, you'd more than likely assume that we had been there together to start, unless you're close enough to hear the introduction of course.
There is another category tho... guys that approach, but in a bad way.
A smaller percentage approaches women anywhere, and in a way that will engage the woman.
Cold approaches on the street during the day are rare, especially in the sense of spotting them. Walk around in a happening area of your city, and sooner or later you'll catch a girl or group of girls getting approached.
If i'm in a place where there are women walking around on the street during the day, I'll approach maybe 1-2 girl every 1-2 weeks... so i know for a fact that they do happen, and sometimes in very subtle ways... I mean, if we started off where she was in front of me in line, and by the end of the line we sit down together, would you really even have spotted the 'approach'??? Even if you did notice, you'd more than likely assume that we had been there together to start, unless you're close enough to hear the introduction of course.