You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I don't care what anyone says, Lance is a kick ass athelete!Originally posted by Soshyopathe
HEY NOW! Lance Armstrong lost a testicle! Can't be coincidence!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The shorts do make a major difference. I thought I was doing pretty good until I bought a pair of Pearl Izumi Microsensor 3D bibs for a double century. OMG, those things made the ride soooooo smmoooooth......Originally posted by Maurizio
I'm not a pro, but I ride about 400 miles a week, and up to 5 hours a day. I've been at it for three years.
I have no problems downstairs whatsoever. The shorts that serious cyclists wear have ergonomic pads stitched in to make things more comfortable and prevent friction.
I will say that my erections seem noticably harder after long rides (~3 hours or more).