You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I don't care what anyone says, Lance is a kick ass athelete!Originally posted by Soshyopathe
HEY NOW! Lance Armstrong lost a testicle! Can't be coincidence!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The shorts do make a major difference. I thought I was doing pretty good until I bought a pair of Pearl Izumi Microsensor 3D bibs for a double century. OMG, those things made the ride soooooo smmoooooth......Originally posted by Maurizio
I'm not a pro, but I ride about 400 miles a week, and up to 5 hours a day. I've been at it for three years.
I have no problems downstairs whatsoever. The shorts that serious cyclists wear have ergonomic pads stitched in to make things more comfortable and prevent friction.
I will say that my erections seem noticably harder after long rides (~3 hours or more).