Is being Slightly Nervous "Cute" to some girls?

[OpenMind]

"A few of my female friends have insistedly repeated numerous times that they would RATHER give their number to a guy who is slightly nervous rather than full-on confident."

Be careful when taking the advice of a woman. It is better to learn from what a woman does than what she says. Next time you are with these female friends pay attention closely to what type of guys they give their number too. You might be surprised. You might also begin to question why your friends tell you one thing and then do another.

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

They give their number to chumps

I dont think there is anyone else in my city that knows about this site.

So...now you have a bunch of AFC's running around..and a bunch of women who are looking for a "nice" guy.

"I just want a nice guy"

I think that BECAUSE of all the AFC's acting all nervous and stuff around these girls, It mentally conditions these girls to be mroe receptive to the whole nervousness thing, IMO.

Not every girl will be recpetive to the whole confident approach, but i guess that shows shes not worth approaching in the first place.

i know tootsie is just a joke, but nevertheless i will say that i had all kinds of nasty little fantasies about putting it on that shy guy...

IQQI, thanks for the female input and dont worry about toot86, he obviously doesnt understand the concept of this thread, even after i explained it to him in grade two terms...short of building blocks and fingerpaints.


Theres one in every forum.

 

[OpenMind]

I guess you have to look even deeper into this and ask yourself who these girls are dating and who their boyfriends are. Just because a female gives out her number doesn't mean she is interested. She may give her number to an AFC but that doesn't mean she prefers one.

 

[Imbrondir]

Nervous guy = Girl in power = Girl ego boost

Offcourse girls like nervous guys. In this scenario, we have a man being nervous, ergo acting feminine. She might want more gf's, but that's it.

Imagine the oposite scenario. A great looking girl having a more masculine act. She runs around wanting to have sex with everybody she meets. Gives the man the power, and ego boost. If she looks great, then men wants to fvck her. But would you have a LTR with this girl? No chance!


Maybe I'm abit extreme tho. She might like it, if you're only nervous in the beginning...

 

[BGMan]

I don't know for sure, but it seems that girls will go for you if you're slightly nervous, yet at the same time you show ballz by asking her directly for her number, or out on a date, rather than hem and haw around (e.g.: "umm... I was thinking... maybe we could... you know... get together sometime?")

After all, the definition of "brave" is "doing something even though it scares the snot outta you."

As for not being nervous at all, women seem to have powerful b.s. detectors, and unless they're just looking for a fling, they probably won't think that the slick, confident dude is for real. Of course, we pretty much have figured out what women think of the babbling idiot.

BGMan

 

[PEACEDJ]

There are ppl who are shy which creates the women to feel as if she's in charge of the situation... you don't want that. There are also people who are over confident and they come off as self concieted. Last... there are Don Juan's who get the number because we know our ****.

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

Originally posted by DJ IronGirevik
This is a pretty interesting topic... I have an idea.

SLIKKER, try approaching 5 chicks, and appear not the least bit nervous at all

Then try 5 more and let yourself appear a little but nervous (but not to the point of being a wuss)

Make sure they are around the same number ranking on the beauty scale. Then bring back the results.

Not a bad experiment, i might just do that

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

sometimes being a little nervous can work to your advantage..

I use it as a technique rather than it being true...

Because women don't exactly dig guys who are totally confident, because they look to good to be true and most of the time thats true.............

Nervous can be good here and there, but just a little bit

 

[iqqi]

She might like it, if you're only nervous in the beginning

I don't know for sure, but it seems that girls will go for you if you're slightly nervous, yet at the same time you show ballz by asking her directly for her number, or out on a date, rather than hem and haw around (e.g.: "umm... I was thinking... maybe we could... you know... get together sometime?")

As for not being nervous at all, women seem to have powerful b.s. detectors, and unless they're just looking for a fling, they probably won't think that the slick, confident dude is for real.

exactly.

 

[Juan_Man]

I try different approaches based on the girl. With flirtatious girls, I apply the Tao of Steve method, by acting desireless but coming off confident whenever I'm around them. This is good because these girls usually like a challenge. With slightly high maintenance girls, I apply the ****y and funny routine because it also shows confidence and it knocks them off their pedestal. I am currently using the "nervous, soft-spoken cute guy" technique with this hot girl that seems pretty quiet. I'm trying to make myself seem more "real" but I don't know if it's working. We'll see what happens. I think eventually, you'll have to show her your confidence or you probably won't be able to close.