"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is being jealous really attractive?

MatureDJ

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I've always thought that being jealous is an act of weakness that women find unattractive. However. I was reading that the babe-to-outbabe-all-other-babes, Scarlett Johansson, likes that her current beau is the jealous type.

http://omg.yahoo.com/blogs/celeb-ne...iest-woman-alive-esquire-again-110042737.html

"Look, I'm with a Frenchman. I think jealousy comes with the territory," she tells Esquire. "But I'd rather be with someone who's a little jealous than someone who's never jealous. There's something a little dead fish about them. A little depressing. It may not make sense, but you need to feel a little. I know, irrational, right?"
I'm confused. :confused:

BTW, I am French heritage myself. :p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Duke

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It is weakness, but it lets Scarlet feel like she is more desirable and that her man cares more about her.

Its kind of along the same lines as a guy wanting a girl that is a little insecure over one that is super confident. You can't trust those super confident ones.
 

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Agree with the above two posters. It's emotion. Pulling your girl away from a group of potential suitors and whisking her away to your place on your chariot....can be seen as romantic/passionate. It's not necessarily being jealous but more of making a statment: "you're mine".....Alpha.

It's different than the guy sitting in the corner with a butt hurt look on his face every time his girl starts talking to another guy.

There's a time and a place though.

If I'm at a bar with a girl and she starts talking to another guy, that's fine...great actually. Lets me show I don't give a fvck and will give me the chance to spread my attention on other things, let someone else entertain her for a little while. Most of the time they're doing it just to be social. But if I sense she's trying to make me jealous, then two can play at that game.
 
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