Is asking totally wrong?

[LinkinParkROX]

I was just about to ask my woman friend (we're not exclusive) out on another date, but I remember reading something on this site where I'm not supposed to ask, but tell her we're going out instead. What am I supposed to do? Never ever ask? 0_o Some examples would be helpful.

 

[Phoenix]

come out for an adventure saturday night!!
yes: awesome, pick me up @
no: ah thats too bad, listen i gotta go, maybe we'll talk next week

 

[jeffthechef]

phoenix gave a pretty good example
just think:
Let's go rather than Do you want to

Do you want to go to the mall?
Let's go to the mall!

with the first one, you sound like you dont know her...and you sound like you're below her

second one, you're equals...and sound like you've been close for the longest times

 

[needstochange]

Hey, what if you say "Let's go to [insert place here] at [insert day here]!" and she says "If my parents let me."? How do you respond to that? Does that mean she's blowing you off? Do I ask her if she's able to go a few days before the day planned?

 

[Igetit!]

phoenix gave a pretty good exampleDo you want to go to the mall?
Let's go to the mall!

with the first one, you sound like you dont know her...and you sound like you're below her

Yeah,Jeffthechef is right. Not saying that you should never ask her if she wants to do anything,it's just at the beginning it's important to demonstrate certain qualities that women are attracted to.

It's important to understand how attraction works for women. They ARE NOT attracted to us the way we're attracted to them.

At it's core,the heart of female attraction is this:Women are attracted to men who radiate superior power. Or to just put it in plain english,women are attracted to men who are superior to them.

That's why you see women always going for rich guys,bad boys,politicians,and rock stars,reguardless of how they look.

They're attracted to the power/authority they see in these people.

Telling a woman to do something demonstrates an authority in you,whereas when you ask her to do something,it's you asking for her permission/getting her "OK" for something. It's you putting her above you and emotionally,she'll "feel" a slight loss of attraction.

That's why when you approach a girl,you should already have a plan in place about where you two should go or what you should do instead of approaching her,getting her to say yes to a date with you,then asking her what she'd like to do,or where she wants to go on the date.

It's IMPORTANT to demonstrate authority to a woman when you're first getting to know her.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

I was just about to ask my woman friend (we're not exclusive) out on another date, but I remember reading something on this site where I'm not supposed to ask, but tell her we're going out instead. What am I supposed to do? Never ever ask? 0_o Some examples would be helpful.

No, asking is not wrong at all. Asking is actually the whole point of "Asking someone out."

I'm really wondering where you read that you specifically aren't supposed to ask a girl out. In terms of "Would you go out with me?", you absolutely should not ask her out directly, but if you rephrase this into, let's say, "Would you like to go out for coffee with me?", then you are doing the right thing.

Let me make it clear that you don't want to force a woman into anything. If she directly says no to you twice, then you'll have to next her because further attempts will waste your time. Since the two of you have already been on a date before, you shouldn't have to worry about this one. All you need to do are two things:

1. Figure out what you want to do with her.
2. Ask her out and set your date in stone. (Confirming your schedules is the most important part.)

Bottom line: it doesn't matter how you ask a woman out on a date as long as she knows what you want to do together. It's really easy once you figure out that it's not that hard at all.

 

[TheEnergizer]

it really doesnt matter as long as you keep it casual and not boring. dont say 'do you want to' or 'would you like to', just go 'hey wanna go grab a bite?' or something along those lines. dont be too formal especially if its your first

 

[Analyzeit]

Yeah, all this advice is good. Listen to them!

But deep down it really doesn't matter and it's not totally wrong, these guys are just saying to do everything right (which you really don't have to) you actually have quite a lot of room for mistakes especially if she's really into you, it just give you more room for mistakes but not making one more.

If you get me lol

 

[MillionaireDreams]

:rockon: ask her to be ur girlfriend