Is a video as a Valentine's day gift for her?

[snowman90]

Hello all, my first, but certainly not the last post here. Just joined so greetings to all of you first..

Okay, let's get started

I need a bit of a help and advice please. There is one girl and I'm really in love with her, care for her and everything what comes by. We were somehow together, we were kissing, hugging, talking for hours, hanging out etc.. She told me straight into face how much she likes me. But suddenly everything fell down because there is another guy who was her boyfriend and she said she still has some feelings for him and is not sure whether she is prepared to move on yet. I'm sure she feels something towards me, otherwise she wouldn't even have started anything with me I guess.

So my question is... in two weeks a Valentine's day will come and I was thinking of making her a personal video to let her know how much she means to me. I have a link to the video so you can see what I was thinking about. It is not finished yet. I know it might be a better idea to meet her on that day but I already know that this won't be possible, so I have to think about something else. I think a video could be a good idea.

What do you think?

 

[Nickface]

Absolutely not my man. That may be one of the worst ideas ever, no disrespect. You have to break it down to her and give her an ultimatum. Either you or him. No in betweens. If she's not yours, you have to go ghost. Simple as that.

Don't get lovey dovey with any of that crap. Profess your like for her in person and act off that. Do you want to end up as the guy who's a friend and a shoulder to cry on? Get with her or disappear in this situation.

 

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Imagine telling this girl you had feelings for another girl. What do you think her reaction might be?

Imagine after telling her this she then sent you a video telling you how much you meant to her. What would you think of her then?

 

[snowman90]

I don't know.. I just wanted to show her how I feel.. isn't it stupid to hide your feelings inside? I've seen some similar videos on youtube and comments were positive.

 

[:-)]

I don't know.. I just wanted to show her how I feel.. isn't it stupid to hide your feelings inside? I've seen some similar videos on youtube and comments were positive.

do you show your feelings every time you get angry or annoyed at someone?

rather than showing them (which is a sign of a weak person unable to control his passions) wouldn't it be better to channel them into something more positive? like finding someone who will appreciate you?

two things are likely to happen as a result:

1) you'll find someone who appreciates you,
2) your girl might actually start being attracted to you again

it's a win win situation.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Snowman, welcome to the forum first of all.

You will completely kill off every last vestige of attraction if you let her know how you feel. She will immediately recoil away from you. Women love (and need) to guess whether or not a guy likes her or not. If a relationship actually forms, you need to create a sense of fear of losing you in her.

Women HATE neediness in men. And they hate the thought of a man being "devoted" to her.

You need to back way off from her. You're too fixated on this single target. Right now she is incapable of returning your affection that you feel for her. A video will humiliate you and will diminish you in her eyes.

WOMEN DON'T CARE HOW A MAN FEELS ABOUT THEM..... THEY ONLY CARE ABOUT HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT A MAN.

Click the link below for the DJ Bible and learn how to become an "alpha-class" man.

 

[snowman90]

Snowman, welcome to the forum first of all.

You will completely kill off every last vestige of attraction if you let her know how you feel. She will immediately recoil away from you. Women love (and need) to guess whether or not a guy likes her or not. If a relationship actually forms, you need to create a sense of fear of losing you in her.

Women HATE neediness in men. And they hate the thought of a man being "devoted" to her.

You need to back way off from her. You're too fixated on this single target. Right now she is incapable of returning your affection that you feel for her. A video will humiliate you and will diminish you in her eyes.

WOMEN DON'T CARE HOW A MAN FEELS ABOUT THEM..... THEY ONLY CARE ABOUT HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT A MAN.

Click the link below for the DJ Bible and learn how to become an "alpha-class" man.

Hello! Thank you for your response. I know she has to be afraid of me losing her but the thing is she can't lose me because I really love her. What about me losing her to this other guy?

I know that this girl loves surprises, whenever I do something nice to surprise her she feels happy.. for example one day she was coming home by train (2 hours ride) and I told her I'll be waiting for her at the station but she said noo, I'm in a bad mood. I went there anyway, hid to her and when she called that she doesn't see me I came from behind and hugged her so tight.. then we spent the whole day together.

My logic works like this that I have to show her I care for her more than anyone else in order to 'win' her over. If I'll wait, I lose probably

And I wouldn't want anyone to be in my position right now cause I would rather cover myself with a blanket and sleep for weeks

 

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Then do it OP. Make the video and send it to her. Make sure you come back here and tell us how it went.

We have all been in that position. It's what brought us here.

 

[Starfvcks 64]

Here is what she says:
"aww that was so sweet XD thanks youre amazing!"

You'll think that means she's interested in you, so you keep flirting with her, without being direct.

She says:
"yea your my best friend but im busy on friday, sat, sun, mon, tues, weds, thurs, all february, all march, most of april. i may have some free time in April"

You:
"AWESOME you are so pretty and perfect i can't wait until April"
Meanwhile, she'll be out getting attention from other guys, and you'll be obsessing and frustrated over a girl who only cares about you because you feed her ego. It's a one-sided friendship.
You'll probably even say "i'm ok with that, because I know in the future she'll be mine."

You need to learn that girls don't want to be friends with a guy first. Being friends with a girl in an attempt to sleep with her is a bad call, and it won't work out in your favor 87% of the time.

You will keep taking her "maybes" as signs of interest, because you haven't learned that anything less than a Yes is No.

You haven't learned the definition of the friendzone, and how it won't ever be a problem if you act on your feelings as soon as you have them. Hopefully this situation will be what you need to open your eyes to some very important truths about how women think VS how men think.

If you care this much, you've already lost her.
If this is a troll, nice job.

If you want some better feedback, post or PM me the video and i'll tell you everything that's wrong with it.

 

[Dgwizdal]

You are an AFC coming here looking for advice. Everything you think you know is wrong so start studying and listening. Your are going to humiliate yourself and prob never bang this girl again. Start reading the literature here, you will see the error in your ways, and will come out pimping any girl you want without needy emotional videos.

There is an endless amount of knowledge on this site to pull chicks and become a better man - your journey starts now: DJ Bible

 

[snowman90]

You are an AFC coming here looking for advice. Everything you think you know is wrong so start studying and listening. Your are going to humiliate yourself and prob never bang this girl again. Start reading the literature here, you will see the error in your ways, and will come out pimping any girl you want without needy emotional videos.

There is an endless amount of knowledge on this site to pull chicks and become a better man - your journey starts now: DJ Bible

What is an AFC? I came here because of a Google search and some of what I read makes sense. I also talked to many girl friends I have and they all agree I should continue showing what she means to me and that girls like that..

I don't know, how old you guys are here? Cause she is 20y/o if that makes anything difference in opinions.

 

[Dgwizdal]

AFC = average frustrated chump.

Lol - you have no idea what you have stumbled upon here. Never listen to a girls advice - they do not know what makes them tick.

You are clearly the rookiest of rookies. Right now everything you think you know is a result of what you've been taught by society and the media on how to attract women: you are a blue pill - pretty much clueless on how women actually operate, think, and what the respond to.

Here you will find the truth: red pill.

You will have a hard time believing some of the things you read and it will be a bitter pill to swallow however you will learn more about pulling girls than you ever thought was possible once you open your mind.

http://therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/

Read the articles here. Especially about being "plugged in" and "unplugging"

Also go the the bottom left hand of this page and hit dj bible. It will be a long but rewarding road to improvement in all aspects of your life.

This stuff isn't for everybody but you came here for a reason. Today is your lucky day - and if IU stick with it; you will learn things that 99% of guys on this planet are oblivious to regarding attracting and keeping women on your balls.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Make the video and then send it. 20 years from now that video will still exist and you will wish it didn't. Maybe we'll see it on youtube.

 

[JoeMarron]

Lawd...listen to the advice of the other posters. You clearly have no idea what you're doing because instead of kissing, hugging and talking for hours you would've fvcked her by now. Read the bible http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/ soak in the knowledge and be enlightened. Or don't. Go ahead and send the video and after that attempt fails and many more attempts to come you'll realize that you're playing the game wrong and you'll come back here.