Is a man spinning plates a "scammer"?

[MatureDJ]

Meet Jacob, a thirtysomething, single Portlander on the prowl.

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Thanks to online dating sites, Jacob pursues dates with “one or two very pretty, ambitious women a week.” He recently ended a two-year relationship with a 22-year-old; he’s currently juggling flings with “a paralegal and a lawyer who work at the same law firm, a naturopath, a pharmacist, and a chef.”

Jacob [...] is the embodiment of a new dating market where the allure of “online romance is threatening monogamy.” Whenever he meets another woman online, Jacob (not his real name) thinks: “This person could be exclusively for me, but so could the other two people I’m meeting this week.” Why have a real relationship, Slater asks, when there are so many attractive, successful partners waiting online?

I don’t know—maybe because we're not all aimless and lazy thirtysomething straight dudes? Jacob may be meeting a buffet of sexy professionals and college students through his online dating profiles, but those women are meeting … Jacob. Slater doesn’t interview the paralegal, the lawyer, the naturopath, the pharmacist, the chef, or the twentysomething about their experiences dating online.

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Marriage will live on, no matter how valiantly Jacob scams on women.

It seems to me that they women consider a man who is able to have a harem as a creep, while they don't give the time of day to the short nice guy ... :cuss:

 

[Zarky]

I can always tell your threads just by the title

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear MDJ,
Seems old Jacob has his head screwed on the right way round!....I think he should submit a thread on here!

 

[Nutz]

It's just sour grapes that a man figured out how to game the system, something traditionally reserved only for (attractive) women.

 

[Stagger Lee]

"Jacob" is most likely considered by women a good looking guy. If you're good looking , it's easy to get 2-3 or more women interested. But these women aren't usual dating 2 or 3 other men. So in a nutshell when some good looking guy is dating 2-3 women, there's one or two men who are left holding the bag. The only one really getting harmed by it is men who are not quite as good looking.

 

[potato]

It seems to me that them women consider a man who is able to have a harem as a creep...

I've never noticed this. Actually I think the opposite is true.

 

[London NATURAL]

Maybe I'm being niave, but isn't it (spinning plates) just the male equivalent of hypergamy(sp?)

 

[Virtus]

For every time you have an inner morale battle with regards to spinning plates being right or wrong, remember that most of the girls you've met in your life have also had many more guys at their beck and call while they gave you some of their time.