is a friend of a friend interested in me? or ego boosting?

[Packers2010]

ok. so right now, i have 2 girls i'm working on ( mainly because i'm noobie and the girls i talk to end up having a bf random i know) one of them i pushed in a trolley threw maccas drive threw . was funny but i texted her like twice and didn't get anything back, i also had her on face so i just deleted her because i know she isn't interested in me. (whatever)

that's girl one. simple. dealt with, done.

girl 2 is more complicated.

i met girl 2 one night when i was hitting up the clubs. i had a bad night and decided to see my non PUA friends across town and have a drink with them.

so i met up with them and she was there. i saw her out again at a different time threw the same friends. this time she was making out with another guy and girl who came along. ( i though she was with him so i didn't do anything, plus my friends was telling me no so.) so i didn't do anything. all i did was add her on facebook, she is cool and if we ever go out again would be cool to bring her along.

since i don't have many girls on my line as of yet. figured i should hit her out. so i started flirting with her over facebook. turns out, i'm a funny guy and she told me she likes me. ( good sign) so a little while after i asked for the number. she game it to me and we have been testing since.

2 weeks ago she went on holiday to the East cost of aus for the weekend with some friends. i only mention this because she texed me Saturday and Sunday night with me even sending a text.

last week we got into a facebook status convo ( as you do) and i was taking about playing cards. i went straight to strip poker, as 1) i am good at poker 2) she is hot. so she agreed to play me in poker. ( hasn't happened yet. been busy with school work)

then on Friday night, I texted her to see what she was doing. ( i didn't get anywhere at the club so i figured i would hit her up as a last resort. ) she was getting high with a friend. i though GREAT! i can try talk my way into going over and score some free weed. ( i'm broke and i like getting high. win / win) but she wouldn't budge. during this convo i said

" well i was going to invite you out to watch the rugby tomorrow ( aus vs wales, wales WTF WAS YOU DOING WITH SECONDS LEFT ON THE CLOCK) but now i'm not going to invite you.

she replied with. " fine, i'll just get high instead"

i though about going no contact on her because i have invited her out before but she won't come out. then on sunday night i check my phone before i got to bed and i see i have 3 messages from her. they read as follows

" so.. u high yet?"
"wake up!!!!"
"Grrrrrr"

i didn't even bother responding to them, since they are so ****ty text. but since i dropped the rugby invite, it might HELP my me if i go no contact.


what the hell is going on here? dose anyone know cos i don't

Cliffs: texted girl have no idea whats going on. mostly likely a case of " spin more plates"

 

[Ethernal]

This is just me, but my spidey sense is telling me she's trying not to look interested in you... but if she messaged you... three times, that's a good sign. Just pick a day, ask her to watch some movies at your place or something and if she accepts good for you, if the answer is no, oh well.

 

[Packers2010]

This is just me, but my spidey sense is telling me she's trying not to look interested in you... but if she messaged you... three times, that's a good sign. Just pick a day, ask her to watch some movies at your place or something and if she accepts good for you, if the answer is no, oh well.

that's pretty much where i am at with her. though we will see. might NC her this week and see what happens next.

 

[Sneevox]

Heh. I have girls act really flirty around me and then completely quit around their friends, and over time slowly start flirting with me around their friends as well.

Shows that they were nervous about being asked about it or something like that.

(It's a good sign)

 

[Mike32ct]

My gut feeling is you should focus on firm invitations rather than "soft" invitations. Chicks are too flakey to respond to soft invitations. You have to spell it out for them.

Soft invitation example:

"We should hang out some night and play poker."

Firm invitation example:

"I got this cool movie/film. How about Thursday night at 8pm?"


Always be specific when you invite a chick to get together.

 

[Packers2010]

My gut feeling is you should focus on firm invitations rather than "soft" invitations. Chicks are too flakey to respond to soft invitations. You have to spell it out for them.

Soft invitation example:

"We should hang out some night and play poker."

Firm invitation example:

"I got this cool movie/film. How about Thursday night at 8pm?"


Always be specific when you invite a chick to get together.

right right... i''ll reopen on Thursday or if she text me before then and get her to come out on the weekend.


when i asked her to com out. it didn't have a time, date or place. i will do that next time.

 

[Mike32ct]

Yup. Then you at least have a firm starting point. If she can't make that exact date or time or doesn't like the idea, she can counteroffer.