"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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slickaz

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My girl asked me today..

how come you never ask me questions likes
"Baby do you love me?"
"can i really trust you?"
or"will you ever hurt me?"

she says her friends boyfriends all ask them these type of questions.
but i dont.
and her friends think.
1. i like her SO much that i already believe these things are true so dont ask,
2. im playing her and so i dont care as long as i get the A55
3. im too scared to ask, so i dont trust her

i think she personally things it 2.

ive dodged the question earlier today with the
"im at work sweetheart i cant talk about this now, lets talk about this later tonight k.."
she said she'll bring it up tonight, so i know she will.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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slickaz said:
My girl asked me today..

how come you never ask me questions likes
"Baby do you love me?"
"can i really trust you?"
or"will you ever hurt me?"
Whatever you do, DON'T ask those questions. They're probably the neediest, most AFC things I've ever heard.
 

slickaz

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thank you!!!!!!!!
coz i was gonna tell her this evening that:

Im confident enough in us that i dont need to ask those questions and get id rather spend that time hookin n up n show her how I! feel..coz she dont deserve to be asked..

i was hoping thatd work
 

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she's wondering why you're not a needy AFC, and she doesn't want you to be that (whether she admits it or not), so just make a joke out of it (C+F) and keep her guessing.
 

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Had something similar before.

slickaz said:
she says her friends boyfriends all ask them these type of questions.
but i dont.
I told her yup that'd be right, coz they're boys, but you're dating a man, luv.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ItsTheAttitude said:
Haha.. absolutely. Go like, "I guess they're just insecure, babe."

Yeah! What he said!:rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
 

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Keep in mind that she may be feeling insesure that your so confident about the relationship. Its possible to overdue the macho-man "I dont need you attitude."

what may be going through her head is:
"he never asks me those questions, does he even care about me?"
hense she feels insecure.

Make sure you show her that you care.
 

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slickaz said:
thank you!!!!!!!!
coz i was gonna tell her this evening that:

Im confident enough in us that i dont need to ask those questions and get id rather spend that time hookin n up n show her how I! feel..coz she dont deserve to be asked..

i was hoping thatd work
Yeah, do this.
 

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I think you're getting too serious with that response. You just need to come up with witty remark and just sidestep it.

Lets think of some better responses.

Her: Why don't you ask me all these afc questions like my friends boyfriends??

You: Honey if you need someone to ask those questions maybe you should hang with your girls boyfriends.

You: Do you want me to do everything you're friends boyfriends do?

You: Lets go get some food i'm starving!

You: You're such a cutie ;-) *hug*


You don't need to answer this question and I think if you do it will just cause problems. If you give her a serious response, no matter what it is, she's just gonna start asking follow-up questions.

I personally sidestep any relationship type question girls ask me. I guess I sidestep most questions girls ask me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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WhtRbt said:
I think you're getting too serious with that response. You just need to come up with witty remark and just sidestep it...
I agree that it's too serious but why sidestep it? Wouldn't the guys she's use to do something like that? I'd just say "Why would I need to worry about such things?" It's confident and straight forward.
 

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Tell her that your happyness dont depend on the answer of those questions.
It sucks when girls compare us to some AFCs and think we should behave like an AFC sometimes... can anybody explain why they do that?
Is this a test or something?
 
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