"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is a 35 y.o. woman being unreasonable in not accepting a man over 40?

MatureDJ

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http://neworleans.craigslist.org/w4m/729040048.html

Perhaps this ad is to stoke interest from those with a foot fetish? Probably because she's a cow.

What I don't understand is how she can be serious in her age requirements. There are not too many decent looking 39 y.o. men that would want a 35 y.o. (except of course for the purpose or purely vaginal reception.)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MatureDJ said:
http://neworleans.craigslist.org/w4m/729040048.html

Perhaps this ad is to stoke interest from those with a foot fetish? Probably because she's a cow.

What I don't understand is how she can be serious in her age requirements. There are not too many decent looking 39 y.o. men that would want a 35 y.o. (except of course for the purpose or purely vaginal reception.)
I'm not sure I agree with your statement that not too many decent looking men would want a 35 year old. I think that most men looking for real companionship rather than just a POA would prefer a woman close to his age. I know myself that part of connecting with a person (woman as gf or male as friend) is having common experiences in life. Enough can't be said about conversations involving our youth. The girl I'm talking to who is my age for instance, enjoys talking about the music, movies, and other pop-culture from our generation. A girl, say 25, has grown up with DVDs, computers, internet, cheap cellular technology, etc. A girl my age can remember when computers were expensive and only nerds had them, even rotary telephones, Beta videos, 8-tracks and 45's with turnables are in our memory banks.

Just adds more things to talk about, remenisce. Now...I honestly agree that I do prefer a younger woman for a LTR. But for me, late twenties/early thirties is my ideal age range. A 30/31 year old would be perfect. Young enough to be cute and youthful, but near enough my age to share growing up experiences.

This woman may feel very young and energetic. Not to say a 45 year old man can't be too, but she's obviously playing the numbers and figuring she'll have more luck narrowing down the prospects. I doubt she'd turn down a 41 year old with nice pics and something interesting to say.
 

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She's going to get hundreds of replies, so she can set parameters as tight as she likes. At least in her mind.
 

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Wow, she sounds like a real prize! *sarcasm*

This woman has issues. Don't beat yourself up because you don't meat her 'criteria'.
 

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My favorite plates are the 32 y.o. and the 27 y.o.

For a lot of reasons. But one of my favorite is our compatibility.
We literally stay up all night talking.

Especially with the 27 y.o. We went through a 3 month patch where every weekend we were together, playing, eating, talking, for about 20 hour stretches non-stop. Could not get enough of each other. Then we would sleep 3 or 4 hours, breakfast and start all over again.

We did we talk about? Everything. Did our differing histories matter? Never.
If anything, we learned from each other, but history was not the focus, energy was. Our energies matched and desire and attraction matched.

We don't do it every wknd now, just now and then, too busy, not because we're spent.

My experience is mine and I'm not saying it should be universal, but no one will ever tell me I need to be with someone my age- I do have a friend in that category and after about three hours I'm happy to go home, and she's ready for bed...;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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