Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah? Why is that?That doesn't even make sense.
Because how is height or race a status?Yeah? Why is that?
Are you serious?Because how is height or race a status?
So what does it take for a 5'7" guy to make up for not being tall?Are you serious?
Tall men are considered higher status (all other things being equal).
Same with race where certain races are considered higher status than others.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
VALUE.So what does it take for a 5'7" guy to make up for not being tall?
I can't do much to change my looks. I'm not getting plastic surgery.VALUE.
Money, looks, game and frame. The same sh*t we all know already lol.
1) Why not?I can't do much to change my looks. I'm not getting plastic surgery.
I can't do much to change my looks. I'm not getting plastic surgery.
Money is what I can work on.
And attitude. Treat them all like sh1t.
Richard if you want to date hot women you need to become one.Wake up call men: Most 9s and 10s in metropolitan cities, beginning at 25 yo, are getting at least one of the following done:
IF you are first hearing about this here, then you aren't dating enough hot women.
- Botox
- Cheek filler;
- Jaw filler;
- Lip filler,
- Boob-job;
- Butt augmentation;
- Liposuction;
- Ultherapy;
- Chemical/Laser peels;
- Vampire facials.
I guess I just don't really care. That is a huge investment of time and not sure it will yield results. I would rather focus on making lots of money. I saw lots of muscle guys alone when I last went out. I don't recall you being super muscular in your picture.1) Why not?
2) With all these complaints about not attracting hot women, why in the hell haven't you started to work out?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Did you do this?Richard if you want to date hot women you need to become one.
In order of importance:You never answered what it was that girls value about you.
I don't know how to tell what is a good looking face on a guy. Did you always have a good looking face or did you get it artificially?In order of importance:
1) Face;
2) Physique;
3) Ambition;
3) Status/Wealth;
4) Attitude;
5) Intelligence
I'm not a bodybuilder. I'm 6'1 190, 8-9% bf; proportional aesthetics. Built like a fitness model.I don't know how to tell what is a good looking face on a guy. Did you always have a good looking face or did you get it artificially?
I have already spent money on silicone filler in my d1ck and laser hair removal on face and down below. I suppose a little more wouldn't hurt. What did you suggest that I get? What kind of filler and what do I tell the doctor? I can't find the old thread.
Also, I don't remember you being super muscular in your picture. There were guys down town who were super muscular and weren't getting any. So what's the difference?
I'll get the plastic surgery and hair transplant if I can afford it.
Okay. I'll look for it when I get home. My phone isn't making it easy to find.I'm not a bodybuilder. I'm 6'1 190, 8-9% bf; proportional aesthetics. Built like a fitness model.
The market directs whom is good-looking which encompasses high, angular cheekbones, pronounced angular jawline, low brow, and proportional remaining aesthetics. I'm naturally good-looking, but also enhanced.
I'm not repeating. If you have enough desire, you will find the thread, and do your own due diligence. As you have yet to set foot in a gym, my words are left on deaf ears.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Good question.Okay. I'll look for it when I get home. My phone isn't making it easy to find.
So you attribute the vast amount of your success to looks? Can I ask what you do for a living or even how much you make? I don't know if that's appropriate, but I spend so much time talking and thinking about money that it seems like a normal question to me. Especially on this anonymous forum and how it relates to pickup.
You sent me your pics via PM. Here is my evaluation:Good question.
I attribute most of my success to looks. But looks only open the door. Then it's "game," which really means social awareness and acuity.
My money and profession are not important in this discussion because when I meet women on OLD or in person, these women do not know what I do for a living--nor do I share this info until they are already closed. The status/wealth becomes more relevant for LTRing, not initial attraction (unless you play status/wealth game). I could exploit status/wealth to my advantage to attract but I'm more interested in finding a girl who values (and will promote interrelational) "ambition" rather than exploit the free ride.
I copied and pasted that thread. Now what happens if I spend all this time and money getting my face injected with stuff and it doesn't help me any? What if people can tell and they laugh at me? Then what? What if it does no good at all?Good question.
I attribute most of my success to looks. But looks only open the door. Then it's "game," which really means social awareness and acuity.
My money and profession are not important in this discussion because when I meet women on OLD or in person, these women do not know what I do for a living--nor do I share this info until they are already closed. The status/wealth becomes more relevant for LTRing, not initial attraction (unless you play status/wealth game). I could exploit status/wealth to my advantage to attract but I'm more interested in finding a girl who values (and will promote interrelational) "ambition" rather than exploit the free ride.
If it doesn't work just tell people you transformed into a real life Ken doll for Halloween. You could wind up getting featured on TV My Strange Addiction and get side gigs in carnival freak shows.I copied and pasted that thread. Now what happens if I spend all this time and money getting my face injected with stuff and it doesn't help me any? What if people can tell and they laugh at me? Then what? What if it does no good at all?
And how can you not tell girls what you do for a living? Do you at least give off an aura of being successful? Certainly they must think you have money to a certain degree, right? They don't think you're broke, do they?
Btw, why are you telling me to choose whether to keep or shave my hair when I have a full head of hair? I am not balding in any way, shape, or form. Are you SURE that this is good advice?
