"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is 40 minutes in shower normal?

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Man I just realized my shower lasted 40 something minutes. I mean the whole thing, poo, shower, no shave today. And I don't have my own shower, we share here, 5 people plus me on one shower. The other night my neighbor was waiting for me outside shower, usually we say hi, but this time it was different, like I've done something wrong - and I didn't do squad to him wrong, I installed him a game and cleaned up his computer. I noticed those guys use shower max for 10 minutes. I don't even know how that possible. Not like I have a lot to do, just shower, wash face, shampoo head, wash ears and arm pits, soap up torso and back, then legs, then wash my ass and balls, then rub feet good. You know I just can't picture why am I so long in shower, and then if I am that long there, then how could all those people do all those things in like five or 10 minutes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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joverby

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If, that's how long of a shower you want to take and you pay your fair share...Fvck em'...If you want to be a little more considerate I have a hard time believing you can't get fully clean in under 40 minutes.

I can in 10 minutes easy. Do you work on an oil rig and get extremley dirty or some sh1t?
 

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It's not that I'm dirty, not at all, I just do things I think I should be doing in the shower, and it takes me that long. While I'm in the shower though, I don't notice time at all. It just it happened today I noticed time I left and time I came back.
 

Cry For Love

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same for me bro. ur just enjoying it, and youre probably a perfectionist - you do something, you do it well. a lot of guys take washing and scrubbing half assedly, dont rinse themselves fully etc. especially the nutsack area.
 

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Holy hell. I'm in and out in 5 minutes. Got ADD so standing around in a shower for too long just annoys the hell out of me. Get in, get clean and get out.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You shower at morning or night?

If 5 people share the shower and you take a 40 minute shower every morning around the time everyone else needs to shower and go to work then you're really fvcking them over.
 

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ArcBound said:
You shower at morning or night?

If 5 people share the shower and you take a 40 minute shower every morning around the time everyone else needs to shower and go to work then you're really fvcking them over.
I let my buddy stay with me and his girlfriend practically visits a lot. She easily spends an hour in there. I use to take long showers as well but now I'm done within 5 minutes max. Sometimes when I get ready for the club it may take me long but I'm out the bathroom within 30 max
 

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So you were at your neighbor's house while he showered.

What happened before this? You "installed a game into his computer".
 

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I think the shower by itself takes me 8 - 15 mins. Although my usual morning routine includes offloading my burden, brushing, showering, the occasional shave and then apply lotion and deodorant afterwards. Combined I try to get all this done in 30 mins but I find myself when I'm done gasping in my mind "did I spend that long in there?" but then again I live alone so this is mostly my problem. I've noticed though that taking a shower can sometimes feel really good and you lose track of time. Since you live with others and considering they might have to get ready in the morning or use the rest room for more urgent purposes you should try to spend about 20 mins in there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tortendieb

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I take long showers in winter but try not to, because my skin gets super dry and I get acne on my back
 

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@Alle_Gory: hahahahahaha!
Very nice!

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Me too, I also easily spend 30 mins in the shower and can't imagine how others can finish in 10 minutes.

They must be skipping a few steps!
 
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I think that you are doing a bit wrong.Excess of everything is bad.Too much time in bath may leads you to some sort of skin problems.It is advisable to have a bath of 15-20 minutes.
 

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Im at a healthy average here i probably spend 15 minutes mostly.

I have 3 stages in order - soap body, face, then shampoo.

If i'm going all out long shower thing, i like to turn up the heat and stand in as long as i can bear, until when i come out feels like i'm about to pass out. Great relaxation.
 
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