"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is 12 miles too far to date?

djthiago1

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Been thinking about dating this cool girl, she lives 12 miles away from my house, google maps says it's 28 min away. Is that too far?
Date or next?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jaylan

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seriously? 12 miles and you have to ask? Anything within an hr I say is doable. 45 minutes and under is much more preferred.

Ive dated women 40 miles away...trust me 12 miles is just peachy.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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djthiago1

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Jaylan said:
seriously? 12 miles and you have to ask? Anything within an hr I say is good. Preferably within 40 minutes.
I wouldn't know. My ex lived like 5min away and she was the only gf i had.
 

Jaylan

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djthiago1 said:
I wouldn't know. My ex lived like 5min away and she was the only gf i had.
Im guessing you are young. When I was younger (under 20) that was the only time I had a girl I was dating live so close. Its good and bad. Good because early on you get to see them a lot and hook up a lot, and get to know her well. Soon though youre not giving one another enough space, and you dont feel like you have an area to call your own.

Any distance within an hour should be fine. If you can easily see a girl once a week, its no problem. Have fun!
 

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12 miles is nothing dude. Your good to go.
 

El Payaso

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12 miles is perfect.
 

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If I wasn't willing to go 12 miles from where i live I'd be stuck fvcking cows as in cow cows not fat human female cows. 12 miles is nothing. If it worries you tell her its kinda far but you will be in the area already anyway for reason XYZ.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I once drove 60 miles to bang a HB8. Then never saw her again. Perfect.
 

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This is a perfect distance. 30 min requires both of you to put in a minimal effort but effort none the less. Should help govern the speed of the dating and relationship. My FB lives 40 min away. Other girl I was seeing, 1hr. I like it a little far. They wont so easily pass by and interupt or gather intel.
 

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Jesus, I'm 80 minutes away from my GF. 12 miles is NOTHING.
 

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Depends on where you live. Here in L.A., 12 miles could easily be an hour in traffic during most of the day. We always joke here that if someone lives near the airport and another person lives in Hollywood - about 12 miles away - that they'd never date because it would be "too far." But overall, it shouldn't make a difference - I've had girls who would happily make an hour and a half long trek to see me. It just makes it harder to want to stay faithful to them - the closer they are, the easier it is to see them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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backbeat

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fu@k no bro, sh@t i bet u drive 12 miles to go buy sh@t for ur clothes or go see a movie or a concert. 12 miles for a chick....sh@t man that aint nothin.
 
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