Irregular IL

[J.R.G.G]

ok this girl calls me every night for one week straight, tells me who much she is in love with me, how much she misses me, that she wants to see me badly. that shes willing to do everything to be with me. I dont know if she then feels bad because i dont tell her i love her back. Then we dont talk on the weekend, she calls back on sunday, we talk for like 20 mins only then she yawns and feels sleepy so we hang up. Now, the weird thing is that she dosent use the L word on sunday, nor she mentioned missing me or anything, then stops calling me all week long. (i never call her, i always leave that for her to do) This has been something constant since always, so i never know if her IL is up or Down. Can her interest level in me lower and get high that fast or do you think she might do this on porpuse to play with my mind.

I dont wanna let her know this annoys me, cause probably that will give her much control. So by acting cool about it i think its better.

Getting mad or showing discomfort is not the right way to act right? I prefer to have my i dont give a F!ck additude.


Sometimes it gets me mad, and when i see her she notices that iam being quiet or less talkative, thats when she asks if iam mad at her or something, i just reply with a simple ''no''.



So what do you guys think? whats your opinion?

 

[flexion_]

Ignore what women say and judge things by what they do. Stop trying to analyze ever word she says - you'll just bang your head against the wall.

Why are you talking to her everyday?

 

[nishbuk]

You can't tell an IL by words...You never can. I'm victim of that.

"How is she acting? What is she doing?"

That's IL.

If a girl says that she loves you, and you don't reciprocate in a certain amount of time, she may begin to convince herself that she never loved you, and her interest will tank. (I am also victim of this). So watch out. At some point you ARE going to have to make the "I L U" commitment. Just make sure you are making it to a girl that is worth your time.

I think it solves two problems. If the girl doesn't love you, then she won't say it, and you know that you should probably dump her before she dumps you.

If she does, then you enter a more serious LTR (if that's what you are looking for), and it's with someone who loves you back.

This way you don't waste any more time than neccessary with women that don't love you.

 

[J.R.G.G]

you guys are right, i appreciate your opinions and i do agree that its actions that count not words...

and flexion, i dont talk to her every day, and when we talk constantly is because she calls and we like to talk to eachother, i dont follow any ''golden rules'' we talk to eachother whenver we feel theres things to talk about, that is why we are ''friends''.