"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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IRose's HS drought

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Alright, so I've been in high school for a year and a half and im in my sophomore year. I came into my freshmen year in a relationship with a girl who went to another school. We eventually split apart the middle of that year and I crashed down to an all time drought. The girl I was with had a friend that went to my school , and over summer break I was messing around with her. That was the last girl I really had anything with. Back in middle school I used to get girls easily, but now I don't know whats wrong.
There's also another issue.
I've never approached a female in my life.
They always seemed to come to me, or at least we would be pushed together by a third-party.
I honestly am tired of this drought and Im trying to break free and get a team of girls.
Tell me what you guys think.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stating the obvious here: You're not in middle school anymore. High School girls aren't like Middle School girls. YOU are going to have to put in some work. Start approaching girls. Get conversations going.

Also, get out of your slump, mentally. So what if that is the last girl you had something with? Get ready for the next one, and the one after that, and the one after that. If you mope around saying to yourself, "I can't get a girl," then you won't get a girl. Improve mentally and watch everything fall into place.
 

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iRose said:
No advice?
None yet. Post in this thread every time you're texting a new girl, approach a new girl, go to a party/concert. We'll be around.

Glad to have you on the forum, you're starting this at the right time.
 

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Wouldn't it be a bit akward if I randomly started talking to a female I dont know?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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iRose said:
Wouldn't it be a bit akward if I randomly started talking to a female I dont know?
Yeah probably. I don't recommend doing it in the hallways at school. How else can you meet people you don't know though?

At a mall or other public place, you'll probbaly never see them again, you have nothing to lose. At a party, or in a new class or something, it's expected, cool people introduce themselves.
 

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My advice to you...

Work out, get big, does wonders for your confidence.

Meet random hot girls, preferably lone girls. Read Gunwitch Method if you want to know why.

Go out to wherever you can constantly find girls, for me it's the girl, more exposure = more experience. More experience = more success.

Don't get sucked into reading too much material, it makes you lazy. I really think Gunwitch is the only thing you need to look at. Your problem will be applying it.
 

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Thing is, I just want to pull girls in my high school without looking like a weirdo.
That's all I need to know. With an approach that seems normal and harmless, I'd be excellent.
 

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iRose said:
Thing is, I just want to pull girls in my high school without looking like a weirdo.
That's all I need to know. With an approach that seems normal and harmless, I'd be excellent.
Practice makes perfect. Working on this other technique will help you with what you really want. Anyone can get a girlfriend in high school, you don't need our help for that.

You want to be special. You want to run sh!t, to get the hottest girls and be the most interesting person around. These traits won't leave you once you earn them. Come earn them with us.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
Practice makes perfect. Working on this other technique will help you with what you really want. Anyone can get a girlfriend in high school, you don't need our help for that.

You want to be special. You want to run sh!t, to get the hottest girls and be the most interesting person around. These traits won't leave you once you earn them. Come earn them with us.
That's what Im going for, By the end of this year Ill have changed for the better.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You just want an approach that makes you look not creepy? That's what everyone wants. But you gave to risk creepy.

Also, things aren't defined by what they aren't but what they are. A lesbian is a lesbian because she is attracted to women, not because she has sex without a ****. Define your approach by something is is, like confident, not by not being sleazy. Also, if you're harmless you won't get laid. Be dangerous and exciting in a social friendly way, like Jason on True Blood or Russell Brand on any of his shows. You'll see what I mean, assume attraction and focus on your own amusement.

Read Gunwitch Method like BPH recommended, watch The Blueprint.
Also read Generation SLUT.
 

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One last note...I don't suggest gaming girls in your school, unless it's quite large.

In my journal I mentioned love triangles with different girls on two separate occasions.

Neither of them worked out...I was able to get kisses from all of them, and bj from one, but I was never able to sex them. They always found out about each other and it got screwed up. So I don't recommend girls in your school.
 

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BPH said:
My advice to you...

Work out, get big, does wonders for your confidence.

Meet random hot girls, preferably lone girls. Read Gunwitch Method if you want to know why.
No, tell me why.
Go out to wherever you can constantly find girls, for me it's the girl, more exposure = more experience. More experience = more success.

Don't get sucked into reading too much material, it makes you lazy. I really think Gunwitch is the only thing you need to look at. Your problem will be applying it. Finish the blueprint and awaken the gient within before saying that!
iRose said:
That's what Im going for, By the end of this year Ill have changed for the better.
How will you make sure this happens?
 

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iRose said:
Wouldn't it be a bit akward if I randomly started talking to a female I dont know?
Who says you don't know them? They could be girls from class, friends, or even friends of a friend. Think big, go big.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well, Im currently playing JV basketball for my school. I'd say im a better then average player but I've decided im dedicating myself to hard work. Not just in my sport, but in life overall. I want to be a better person and I KNOW I can be one. Im going for excellence in all aspects of life. Right now, Im slacking in the female department, which is probably because I don't talk to them. Its like im in school I see girls but I just don't think they'd be into me.
P.S. Im also getting into the weight room and starting to lift with a experienced friend.
 

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iRose said:
Im slacking in the female department, which is probably because I don't talk to them. Its like im in school I see girls but I just don't think they'd be into me.
It is why you're slacking in the area, it's not a maybe.
Have the mindset that every girl is into you and stop being a *****, go talk to some girls
 

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So when I talk to them , what should I say?
Where should I approach them.
And since im a sophomore, how should I go about pulling upperclassmen?
 

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iRose said:
So when I talk to them , what should I say?
Where should I approach them.
And since im a sophomore, how should I go about pulling upperclassmen?
#1,
This is not simple, you are not going to get a 1 word/phrase/paragraph/page answer, and I'm not going to attempt to give you one. What you need to know is that HS is a social environment unlike any other. It's different than college, than the real world, than the workplace, than the mall, than the park, than toys r us. Who you are, whether or not you're cool, is defined by rather ridiculous value systems. This is because girls in HS only have a couple things to determine your value.

I would suggest grabbing a friend and going to the malls if you want to sarge girls. Right now in HS, you should be developing your relationships with the alpha males in your school. Befriend them, and then go for chicks. Lead the men, and the women will follow.

In general though. You need to start from the beginning. Learn about human behavior and social value systems, learn about why men are attracted to women and visa versa, learn how to act confidently. All these questions can be answered on youtube and various books.

Good luck.
 

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AlexLefty said:
#1,
This is not simple, you are not going to get a 1 word/phrase/paragraph/page answer, and I'm not going to attempt to give you one. What you need to know is that HS is a social environment unlike any other. It's different than college, than the real world, than the workplace, than the mall, than the park, than toys r us. Who you are, whether or not you're cool, is defined by rather ridiculous value systems. This is because girls in HS only have a couple things to determine your value.

I would suggest grabbing a friend and going to the malls if you want to sarge girls. Right now in HS, you should be developing your relationships with the alpha males in your school. Befriend them, and then go for chicks. Lead the men, and the women will follow.

In general though. You need to start from the beginning. Learn about human behavior and social value systems, learn about why men are attracted to women and visa versa, learn how to act confidently. All these questions can be answered on youtube and various books.

Good luck.
#2

This is indeed a simple answer. On one side, WHAT to talk about is complex. There are many lines.

But HOW to talk is easy. Be enthusiastic and positive and lower your threshold of acceptable conversation. Just talk about random sh!t in a fun way, then isolate and talk in a sexual way. One-on-one you can skip the fun way and just go for sexual, let sexual tinge everything as well.

Just be confident, fun and sincere. Really. That's all it is.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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