"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ironically, Trying so hard to be alpha makes you a beta
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mike32ct
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If everyone were put in the same room, we would automatically know who was Alpha, it's instinct. Women have it too. They gravitate to the man who is most Alpha (a relative term).
Who runs the table at pool? Wins the fist fight? Hits the softball or baseball the furthest? Plays Quarterback? Is named Most Eligible Bachelor? Is named CEO? The Alpha male.
Atom Smasher
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Alphaness is getting a handle on all aspects of life, and ensuring that women are only one aspect of life among many.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
zekko
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I agree with bigneil's definition of alpha, this is what an alpha male actually is. PUAs kind of bastardize the term, making it seem like if you're just indifferent toward women, or know some techniques, that makes you an alpha male. Well, no it doesn't, not really, that doesn't make you the top male - which is what "alpha male" literally means.bigneil said:
Alpha is a position, although some try to sell it as a mindset. I don't know why they don't simpy call it a "masculine mindset", which is far more accurate. I guess that's not the big selling buzzword term that alpha is.