IronDJ's Journal

[IronDJ]

I posted a FR earlier, and now I felt like I'm at a good enough place to start documenting and learning from my experiences in this crazy game of life.

I was going to write my whole sob story of how I got here. As I was typing it, I realize how pathetic I was. I deleted it and decided to leave the past where it belongs. This is about moving forward, so let's get to it.

I'll start by describing myself. I'm a 27 yr old hardware design engineer that lives in south Alabama. I know those two don't sound like they go together, but there are actually some great technology jobs in the south. I'm originally from northwest Mississippi, just south of Memphis.

Here's a picture of me from a work trip where we stopped at the Jack Daniel's distillery.
http://imgur.com/C11Jx1k

Before I started reading this site, I was doing one thing right, working out. I've been a triathlete for a few years now. My username is based on the Ironman brand that exists in triathlon. I mention this, because the sport has become a huge part of my life.

What I hope to accomplish with this journal:
1. Look back on my progress and see where I can grow.
2. Receive feedback from you guy to grow even more.

Here are what I perceive to be my strengths and weaknesses:

Strengths
1. I'm what I would call pretty fit. Here's a pic from a race: http://imgur.com/GTFZ4uM
2. I have a career that is becoming very successful.
3. I'm becoming more confident and bold everyday.

Weaknesses/Struggles
1. A lot of girls in my area are looking for a "country boy", which I am not.
2. I'm 5'7. Guys under 6' can understand that we have our work cut out with a lot of girls in this area.
3. My LTR ended a year and a half ago, but it did a number on my self confidence. Because of this, I tend to lowball myself when talking to some girls. Hopefully you guys can keep me in check.

The rest of this journal will be done in BeginningDJ's format. I have a couple of plates I'll describe now, but my interest in them is wavering. I have a work trip coming up this week, and I may do a reset and find new pieces.

By the way, I like using the word "pieces" over "plates". Mainly because I play chess, and I like the idea of adding more pieces to my side than just spinning plates. Different strokes, right?

 

[IronDJ]

Current pieces
Jennifer - 31
College Grad
RN

Met her from POF. I don't want this thread to turn into a thread on the virtues of POF. I'll gladly have a discussion my views about that on a different thread. Our first date was last Friday. We ate lunch and eventually made our way back to her place. When we were at her place, we talked for a bit, and as we talked we started moving closer to each other and eventually made out for a bit. I eventually get her shirt and bra off, we start rubbing on each other, and then she stops saying that she didn't expect things to start going this fast.

We made plans on seeing each other again when I get back from my work trip. I may try to keep talking to this one.

Dianna - 31
Unsure about school
Lawsuit clerk

She's on a kickball team I play for. There isn't much to do social in my area, so kickball is a fun change of pace. Anyway, after last season, we decided that we should go out. Getting her out is tough though, as she has a kid.

One concern I have with this piece is that I'm going to see her no matter how things work out with her. I haven't slept with her yet, but I feel like doing so will create a similar situation to dating someone you work with. Thoughts?

Shannon - 21
Hostess at Pub
Assistant for some local lawyer

This is the girl from my "put your number in my phone" FR http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=203193
I don't have a pic of her yet, but I'll update when I get one. We met up last night and talked for a bit. She works 80 hours a week between her two jobs, so getting her out will be a struggle. She's attractive, but I'm not sure I want to invest a lot of time in finding a time that's good for us to go out.

Honestly she was an experiment to see if the cold approach from my FR would work. I'm thinking about letting this one fall off, as she's served her purpose.

Like I said in my first post. I'm likely going to start sarging when I get back from my business trip, and the results of that may end with me letting these naturally fall off.

To be continued...

 

[BeDJ]

IDJ,

At our age, the priority should be securing options that are much younger than we are. Don't let height be a burden, you're fit, good looking and realizing your SMV (most important.)

Jennifer (7-7.5) is a piece, nice body for her age. I am sure you will be able to get much more intimate with her. Diana (6.5) is decent, I wouldn't invest too much. Her kid comes first so arranging dates can be a challenge. Use bold game and see what you can get away with. She's a single mom.

Number grabs are good for self-confidence, but don't invest too much in them. Your fingers should always be on the next button (roughly 80% of number closes.)

 

[IronDJ]

IDJ,

At our age, the priority should be securing options that are much younger than we are. Don't let height be a burden, you're fit, good looking and realizing your SMV (most important.)

Jennifer (7-7.5) is a piece, nice body for her age. I am sure you will be able to get much more intimate with her. Diana (6.5) is decent, I wouldn't invest too much. Her kid comes first so arranging dates can be a challenge. Use bold game and see what you can get away with. She's a single mom.

Number grabs are good for self-confidence, but don't invest too much in them. Your fingers should always be on the next button (roughly 80% of number closes.)

Appreciate the post dude. How much younger are we talking? I've dated my fair share of 20-24 year olds, and as hot as they can be, they get on my ever loving nerves.

I think that's why I tend to date slightly older women. They are better at conversing, which is something that I require.

With that said. I'm seeing Dianna Sat. night. I'm planning to escalate like crazy. I'll report back. I haven't talked to Jennifer since last Saturday, and even then she seemed really passive. Maybe I was a ONS? I'll try to set something up with her sometime next week maybe.

 

[IronDJ]

So my work trip is in Baltimore, and I met a girl from Baltimore on my flight up here. She's a student at the University of Maryland, and we talked about her classes and what I do for my work. I said that since she's from the area, she should be my tour guide one night, to which she agreed. Upon the plane landing she mentioned hating the part where the plane is just about to land and grabbed my hand.

After we landed, we exchanged numbers, and Friday I'm meeting up with her to go out before I leave the next day. Looks like shooting fish in a barrel from where I'm sitting.

 

[BeDJ]

Younger chicks have insane options and if you are successful with them, older women are a walk in the park. Women in their 30's are definitely a lot easier. We can convince ourselves of the great sex with older women, but it's not on the same level as 21 year olds.

 

[IronDJ]

Update 3/29

Jennifer and Shannon have both fallen off since my return from my business trip in Baltimore. This leaves me with only one piece in Dianna. I went out with her last Saturday. It was our first real date, and it went decently. We had dinner and then decided to come to my place to talk. While talking to her I managed to work my way into making out with her and getting some feeling action in, but she stopped it from going further than that. We play kickball every Thursday night and go out to a bar afterward where all the players in the league go to, so I see her every week. Because of this, I'm not ready to drop this one just yet, but I'm definitely wanting to find more options.

Work has been picking up lately, so I've been in kind of a dry spell with finding time to go out and meet new girls. There's a saying I remember from an endurance training book that says "enjoy the peaks and endure the valleys". I just got to keep my head up and look forward.

 

[BeDJ]

I hear you on the peaks and valleys. In February I couldn't get a date to save my life. It actually frustrated me to the point where I assessed my happiness, career and opportunities. I U-Hauled it 400 miles the day I quit my job. The change of scenery did wonders for my mindset, I draw positive energy from women when I transmit it.

75% of game is mental. Know when you are hitting a valley, step away from the game and do things that will positively improve your mindset. When you're at the peak, don't dare let that fire die!

 

[BeDJ]

Update?