"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Señor Fingers

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Sorry to burst so many bubbles, but I been getting some questionable messages after responding to one of her recent threads. You guys know I could give half a rat's ass about the drama around here, but I had to stick up for my homegirl.

We been pals since '03, and though she may swear like a trucker and probably made one crack too many about her 13-inch c0ck, I can assure you she is a lady, and quite easy on the eyes if you ask me. I know she can be a bit of a wiseass at times, but she is actually cool peeps once you get past the cynical humor and penis jokes.

So I guess some of you fellas will just have to find a new target for your rage. If you are that bored, I suppose you can always accuse me of being a woman.

For the record though, the dude who called me "Captain Save-A-Tranny" got a belly laugh out of me. You know who you are ;)

Play on playas, and remember that haters get no love!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WesCottII

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There's a problem with her?

I always found her advice quite insightful personally....
 

Capt.Jack Sparrow

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Wow, Senor Fingers...

Now you guys did it! this guy never comes out...

xD bet theres a lot of your newbies out there thinking... what? Senor fingers? whose that?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Desdinova said:
Never thought for a minute she was a guy. I remember when she first came to this site. So young, so un-used, such smooth skin :D
LMFAO!!!
 

DavenJuan

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Señor Fingers said:
Sorry to burst so many bubbles, but I been getting some questionable messages after responding to one of her recent threads. You guys know I could give half a rat's ass about the drama around here, but I had to stick up for my homegirl.

We been pals since '03, and though she may swear like a trucker and probably made one crack too many about her 13-inch c0ck, I can assure you she is a lady, and quite easy on the eyes if you ask me. I know she can be a bit of a wiseass at times, but she is actually cool peeps once you get past the cynical humor and penis jokes.

So I guess some of you fellas will just have to find a new target for your rage. If you are that bored, I suppose you can always accuse me of being a woman.

For the record though, the dude who called me "Captain Save-A-Tranny" got a belly laugh out of me. You know who you are ;)

Play on playas, and remember that haters get no love!
i personally have no problem with Iq. However you have to remember (and its been said before)

..there are SOOO many newbies, keyboard jockeys, regulars that have been either burned, mistreated, used, abanded by all types of women.

users, AW's, b*tches, gold diggers...

even women with good intentions that just have no geniune interest in the guy.

the last thing they want to do is AGREE with a women. even when her post at the time is insightful, thought provoking, eye opening, or sometimes enjoyably debatable.

i have even seen guys give penkitten, watertiger and others a hard time.

i dont think Iqqi takes it personally. and if you do (iq) remember that some do enjoy your "buy a women drinks, i gamed a guy" posts.

in a seriousness, i do enjoy your views and opinions
 

DavenJuan

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just to add....

if ANYONE should be having problems with posters... i think it may be a bit more appropriate for us to take a look at all the ..

"how to get EX back, when to call, does she like me" posters and have the read the DJ bible before posting.

thats energy better spent
 

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DavenJuan said:
i personally have no problem with Iq. However you have to remember (and its been said before)

Interesting since you happen to share the same IP number as her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Iqqi is a quality poster whom I have respect for (pretty rare for this forum).

comic_relief
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Interesting since you happen to share the same IP number as her.
we share the same IP number?

..im confused?
 

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Personally, I have found much of what she has contributed lately to be nothing short of drivel.

I have no problems with a woman contributing, but ancedotal evidence and the patronising attitude are qualities that I just see little value in. I think a lot of people have been very tolerant to be quite honest. Some of her posts are good, but a lot are way too personal to add any real value. They seem either like an attack on the poster, the topic at hand or the male gender as a whole. Its the general attitude I have a problem with.

Seriously though, pics would add a little more credibitilty.
 

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Aboleo said:
Morons keep this place entertaining.:)
Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints? :confused:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Señor Fingers said:
Sorry to burst so many bubbles, but
Does it really make that much of a difference in either case?... meaning, what's worse, a man posing as a female in any forum, or a genuine female in a forum clearly intended specifically, or at the very least optimized for, male-to-male discussion and interaction. To this point, there are multiple entries permanenly linked in the DJ bible with guidance, repeated over and over, as to how it is inherently in error for a man to take a woman's advise where it pertains to personal relationships.
 

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I have to say, I'm not entirely sure why there is so much hate against Iqqi, most of the time I see her post as just trying to attack something that usually say very negative about women and something I'm not sure everyone would disagree if said differently. I'm not going to argue what was said was true or not, too many posts to go through to figure it out. I do say that Iqqi could attack the part of the post that was bad rather than the whole post which is leading to the harsh and inflamatory counter-arguements.

I have to say though, senor fingers is known as one of the legendary posters and haven't posted in years since her got married (how is that going, BTW?), him defending her have to mean something.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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