IOI's vs her actions

[K2000kidd]

Thanx to alot of info on this board i've learned much about reading body language and picking up IOI's but i've been blown out assuming more attraction than there actually was for example and HB7 was giving me looks
laughing at anything i said, and even leaning in like an inch from my neck and telling me i smell nice, That friday i ask her to lunch and she asks who else is going i said just me, she says that it would seem to much like a date if only her and I went so I went with some of the guys instead and haven't talked to her since.
Basically i gauged her interest wrong and should have waited for better signals but i didn't want to be friend zoned

I almost believe a woman genuinely interested will pursue you
ask about you and find any excuse to be around you.
I'm ready to start only dating women who approach me

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

"That friday i ask her to lunch and she asks who else is going i said just me, she says that it would seem to much like a date if only her and I went so I went with some of the guys instead and haven't talked to her since."

Oh dude! It was just a lil resistence, u should've plowed it out. U should've told her, "Yes, its a date. I would like to get to know you better and what better way than to do this? I'll pick u up at 8/whatever time is good for you" Dominance and plowing def would've had her down. She was just being indecisive. She wanted to....she just was being conflicted with social conditioning. Hit her up again.

"Basically i gauged her interest wrong and should have waited for better signals but i didn't want to be friend zoned"

No! You gauged right and u had more than the needed right signals. Her not saying no, but "Its too much like a date.." was a clear sign that she wanted to but was indecisive and unsure. As a man, u reassure her by deciding it for her and she'd go along with it. They want us to decide.

"I almost believe a woman genuinely interested will pursue you
ask about you and find any excuse to be around you.
I'm ready to start only dating women who approach me"

Not necessarily. Girls aren't that clear cut . If a girl is genuinely interested in you, she won't act so logically...eventho overtime u prolly can figure it out. Also about dating women who only approach you? Good luck man...most women are terrified to approach a guy/too socially conditioned not even if they want to **** him/talk to him....to where the chances u'll get approached are not that often, especially if its a girl u want.

U be the one to approach, it makes u more of a man.
Hit the girl up again, she's still into u.

 

[K2000kidd]

GREAT answer sir
i sometimes find the ones that do approach are less desirable anyway
at the same time i hate the princess mentality some women have about how they expect men to jump through hoops and "work" for it.


to be clear though i haven't flat out ignored her but havent gone out of my way to see her either.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

ah i c. One more time shouldnt hurt lol