IOI's high, mixed results.

[get1]

this girl i've been seeing now and again for the last 3 months has me beat.

She was in an engagement and broke out of it to see me and i **** closed her the first night we went out but since then she has seemed a bit fridget.

We speak most days and have fun when we hang out but there is still a lot of issues pertaining to her past rel'p and when we sleep together she seems to be horny but at the same time i pick up that she thinks its the wrong thing...

what aspect of my game do i need to adapt, retrain or tighten to get her frothing for it again?

In terms of attractiveness i have dozens of chicks after me..but i've stayed loyal to this girl for the last couple of months but its starting to confuse me. I think on one hand she is very, very attracted but on the other she seems to feel she is doing the wrong thing socially by seeing someone straight out..

hmm, anyone been in a similar situation or who can lend some advice- i'm enjoying this so much because its a challenge and all the other girls lately since i've tightened my cards have been easy?

 

[slaog]

So she's losing interest? You sure she's not seeing somebody else?


She might not see you as a challenge anymore. If you're always there when she comes calling??

 

[DJDamage]

Why are you loyal (in LTR) to a girl that cheated on her fiancee to be with you??

Your ego is bigger then your brain. She is more then capable of pulling that sh1t again, its just that your ego believes that her fiancee was a weak man and that's the reason he lost her to you, which in all probablity was because he tried to marry a wh0re.

You can't make a wh0re into a housewife.

 

[get1]

So she's losing interest? You sure she's not seeing somebody else?


She might not see you as a challenge anymore. If you're always there when she comes calling??

I think you could be right. I'll have to be less available and see how that goes. the last time i didn't **** close was when she had work in a few hours and she is a career focussed girl. however it could just be an excuse..

In terms of doing the wrong thing I think this comes from that she had been in such a serious rel'p, and socially she would look like a wh0re to be seeing anyone else and she is scared of losing all those circles.

In terms of somebody else. Not sure, don't care as we're not actually in a rel'p i just haven't had the time to see anyone else but that will all change in a couple of weeks.. maybe the tables will turn then? when i lose interest..

 

[get1]

Why are you loyal (in LTR) to a girl that cheated on her fiancee to be with you??

Your ego is bigger then your brain. She is more then capable of pulling that sh1t again, its just that your ego believes that her fiancee was a weak man and that's the reason he lost her to you, which in all probablity was because he tried to marry a wh0re.

You can't make a wh0re into a housewife.

As I said to Slaog its not so much a LTR with this girl, more something casual and it serves my interests at the moment until my time frees up in a couple of weeks.

the guy proposed to her because she was leaving him, when we hooked up they were separated but he was trying to work things out. From what she has said they would have gotten back together if I didn't enter the picture.

Saying that, I wouldn't be surprised if she was a dodgy wh0re and did the same to me but then again the opposite could be true. I still have plenty of back up girls don't worry.

Just might be doing what slaog suggested and being no challenge to her anymore.. we're still very flirty and fun but the problem is that we speak everyday, generally emails IMs, etc.

Maybe i should cut that out and see where it takes things..how do i transition from being there all the time to not at all on IMs and email?

thanks

 

[get1]

Just a quick note to add only just this week she isn't pretending we aren't catching up and seeing each other socially. She even wants to goto this event in a couple of weekends with me + both our mates and the ex would be there too. sounds like trouble. haha

 

[slaog]

Maybe i should cut that out and see where it takes things..how do i transition from being there all the time to not at all on IMs and email?

thanks

Just let her know (indirectly) that you're not going to chase her anymore. Have patience and she'll eventually get the message.

 

[get1]

Thanks, well today i've back off and am already seeing some results - she messaged me earlier and i eventually wrote back a closed reply,

From now I won't initiate contact all weekend and will see if i hear from her - weekends are usually her busy times with gfs so even if i don't i'll extend the no contact till i hear from her. then say, hey im just with a friend can i call you back? if she asks who, i'll say hey i really have to go but i'll get back to you..

will let you know how we go.. i'm happy to let this one slip theres a few 9 look wise girls i've been stringing along and im thinking it might be time to jump ship if this doesn't go where it should...she is prob an 8 in looks but smart, has her life together hence the attraction thus far..

peace