"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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IOIs and plates everywhere

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You know what? Fvck IOIs.

Paying attention to IOIs is a waste. I'm done with it. I bet naturals don't even know what IOIs are. Stop caring about IOIs by spinning plates. My eyes have opened.

Right now the women I'm doing best with gave away nothing for IOIs until I grabbed them and started doing stuff to them. I might have missed a shot at making out with a new chick last night because she was walking along with me with her arms folded and telling me the "I'm tired" crap. Her body language sucked, no IOIs. I walked her back to her car, pulled her toward me, kissed her and I told her I wanted to see her again and suddenly she's all talk about future dates and that we should get together on a weekend. Not that words mean anything... She's probably shy and didn't think I was interested until I put it on her lips.

The other night I took a woman out to a Greek restaurant. It was the 2nd time I had been out with her. When I picked her up she gave me the cheek slide when I pulled her in for a quick kiss. After dinner, a short walk arm-in-arm, my lead, no IOIs from her. Then I put my arm around her waist, squeezed her, turned her around and made out in a dark parking lot for an hour. I had my hands and lips everywhere on her, her ears, her neck, her ass, her thighs... She has an incredible way of moaning when I nibble her earlobes.

Spinning plates is a key to not wasting time looking for IOIs. When you have a stable of options you don't give a crap what some dumb chick thinks. Walking back to my car after my date last night I tried to pick up another chick in a garage elevator. Didn't work out. Who cares? I didn't have time for her anyway because my schedule is jammed.

Tonight is a different new girl. I will lead this to a sunset walk along the beach and more. I know she's interested. She wasn't exactly a cold approach. I met her at a wedding last week where I was the best man. Talk about social proof! It doesn't get better than that! I'm going to do whatever I want and if she's not interested, who cares. I've too many other interested women to deal with anyway.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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realsmoothie

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Neanderthal method. Grab that hairy girl and kiss her.

Like that.
 

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MisterAl said:
I'm going to do whatever I want and if she's not interested, who cares. I've too many other interested women to deal with anyway.
The really great thing is, this works even when there are ZERO chicks who are interested in you.
 

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Just assume the woman likes you - its really much easier than trying to guess.
 

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Following up, I did take that new girl to the beach last night for that sunset walk and more. To quote, "You know exactly how to touch me."

Fvck IOIs. Stop looking for hints from her. Just do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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haha she's sending off signals your just not recieveing them. Before you can act on IOI's you have to learn how to read them. It takes experience to really start being able to pick up on them.

Once you get to know women more you'll understand how it works. If a girl is interested she will ALWAYS send signals. Period.
 
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