Inviting yourself over?

[Romules]

Hey guys,

just wondering how it is viewed in general when you suggest to a girl that you go and watch a DVD at her place for a date?

Of course it makes it pretty obvious what it will be all about. I'm thinking of mixing it a little to ease it up:"how about a DVD at your place, or a movie at the theater?"

Any tips is welcome.

 

[Docs]

Girl: Ohh, I can cook a good chicken
You: Really, well I have this good recipe and I'm actually kind of hungry, do you have chicken at your house?
Girl: Ohh yeah, I'm really starving.
You: Alright, I'll be nice and cook you supper *winks*.

You blend it in with a reason man.

 

[Kev07]

One time i was asking my friend about hw on AIM, then after that she said omg this ice cream is so goooood.

me: what is it?
her: blabhalbhalbhl
me: be right there
her: wha- (i hang up)

well i went over there and ate her ice cream

 

[DJDamage]

how about a DVD at your place, or a movie at the theater?"

A) Never give them an option, cause she might choose the later one.

B) You can't invite yourself over unless you are being invited. As some one suggested ask her to cook dinner with you and just casually say "ok I will buy the ingredients and you warm up the stove at your place and I will meet you there" - don't give any indication or hint that you want to just solely bang her but you are there for the meal and of coarse you will also buy some alcohol for dessert......

 

[Babnik]

Why not give a hint that you want to hang her... I mean she is not dumb, she will know. I invited myself over. I asked a girl to cook something for me.

I invite myself to their place because mine is a mess due to my roommate... it works.

You guys are going to end up in the FRIEND zone if you keep hiding your sexual desires for a woman!

 

[Docs]

We should have sexual rapport with every girl though, so that step doesn't have to be included all the time.

 

[DJDamage]

You guys are going to end up in the FRIEND zone if you keep hiding your sexual desires for a woman!

Nobody said hiding your sexual desires Babnik, but you got to be more creative about going to a chick's house for the first time in the early stages of courtship other wise if she doesn't know you very well and she thinks you are there only to bang her, her anti-slvt defence might go up. If this chick wanted to bang this guy SHE WOULD ALREADY HAVE INVITED HIM OVER. If you have to ask then you are already starting on the wrong foot.

You always are supposed to be sexual with her but you also can keep her in suspense and trying to guess your moves is an added bonus.

 

[Romules]

B) You can't invite yourself over unless you are being invited.

Well, to sum it up quickly, we had coffee, then she emailed me back the next day asking me if I wanted to see her again, maybe come to her place. I said sure, it would be great, and that I'd give her a call that night. I did, it didn't answer, left her a message, but she got it too late and emailed be back the next day and then proposed we had breakfast on saturday.

I was busy on that saturday, so I took her ice skating on sunday evening instead, had some kino going, but didn't go for a kiss-close, (the conversation just didn't die out in the car).

Anyways, I'll have to call her back, probably tomorrow evening (don't know if 2 days it too little of a wait period) and that's what I'm wondering: should I suggest watching a DVD at her place?

Edit: Basically I realise how much of a mistake I made by not initiating more kino and pushing for a kiss-close more aggressively after she specifically asked me if I'd like to come over earlier, and now I'm wondering if she completely lost interest because of that.

So I definately want to make up for the worst mistake I did in a long time by going to her place and initiating it.