Inviting myself to prom

[Drook]

Hey, long time browser, first time poster here. I need some help winning a bet with this girl.

So I talked to this 8/10 exchange student for the first time over FB about music and stuff. I couldn't tell if she was into me or not, but I wasn't really chasing (exchange students can't have relationships in country).

A day or two later I was talking to my friend about her and she challenged me to get HB8 to take me to her prom (I'm homeschooled). Thinking that I had the infinite power of SoSuave and Simplepickup at my hands I figured I could basically invite myself after I got her.

Then I realized that she might already have a date, I only got two weeks to work with and I need her to INVITE ME TO HER PROM. She's coming to a movie marathon at my place this Sunday and we see eachother once a week but I'd need to set up a date or two to pull her hard enough.

So my question is: how do I escalate a relationship from acquaintance to prom date within two weeks? I'm decent looking, I started lifting a few months ago and I think I have a decent taste in music/movies so I just need an idea what to do.

 

[LearningSlowly]

I don't know man, what do YOU think you should do?

 

[Drook]

I don't know. I feel like I need to gauge her interest but I'm not sure if I should talk to her before the marathon or just hit on her then. I think I should set a date up next week but I need to see how this weekend goes first.

That's actually a REALLY good question, bro. Made me think.

 

[Purefilth]

When she comes over
"So, you gonna take me to prom then or what?"

Simple. Theres your answer and interest level guage all in one. Now STOP THINKING and DO. LIKE A MAN.

 

[Drook]

The thing is there are going to be >15 other people this weekend and we've only talked once. So it's not like a date where I could pull a line like that and get away with it plus we barely know eachother.

I know I NEED to drop a line like that I but I don't know if it'd be too soon.

 

[AlexLefty]

You don't have much time, so u just gotta go for it. You go for it by physically escalating. ESCALATE PHYSICALLY.

Then do like purefilth implied and be direct about asking her to prom or whatever.

Once again, your answer is to escalate physically.

 

[Drook]

Alright so I overcame a c***block and got her number AND a date.

So my "friend" is pretty much that guy when it comes to girls and he was blocking me SO HARD it hurt. But he gave her my number before the marathon (lol) and she started texting me so we're going to skate/see a movie next Sunday!

But yeah thanks a TON for the advice. Like I probably would have messed up without even the basic stuff you guys gave me. I'll update if anything happens over text and after the date.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Nice. I phrased my last post the way I did because you have a good head on your shoulders and its obvious by what happened. What else is going to happen is before halfway through your date, you're going to kiss her. I like to kiss around the midpoint so it takes the pressure off trying at the end. Touch her the whole time.

 

[Skyline]

. But HE gave her MY number before the marathon (lol) .

You lucked out... I still think you should of asked her yourself. But, whatever you're in

 

[Drook]

You lucked out... I still think you should of asked her yourself. But, whatever you're in

I know. I would have asked her out over Facebook either way but this makes it a lot easier and it ups the ante a bit.

I'll probably call her before the date so I can make my intentions clear/flirt and make going for a kiss easier. Provided I got the cajones to go for it on the first date.

But the date plan is [shytty movie here] then skateboarding. I haven't skated in years but she said she'd "teach me" so there will be plenty of opportunity for kino there. Plus I'll have handholding, arm over shoulder, etc. over with during the movie.

I'll be sure to ask her about prom before or during the date. My only worry is going for the kiss too early, having her put a shield up and blocking myself from prom. Not to mention messing up my text game by appearing too needy while I'm trying to escalate.

I think I'll be fine, though. Even if I don't make the deadline for prom I wouldn't mind spending time with her.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Off topic: I would seriously be interested in talking to your parents, how do they home school you if you don't mind my asking. I would really like to do the same with my children. What is your daily schedule like?

As far as prom goes, it won't matter in a few years... take the exchange student out, especially if she is from Asia or South America, prom not important, creating relationships and contacts for later is. Text game/whatever game is all un-necessary later on, all that crap is mostly bullsh1t that you don't need. Trust me I'm married already. The best thing you can do for yourself is be completely direct with her, no games, no bs... just tell her straight up you like her and if she doesn't like you back, stop talking to her. Don't waste your time on women that have no interest in you.

 

[Drook]

Off topic: I would seriously be interested in talking to your parents, how do they home school you if you don't mind my asking. I would really like to do the same with my children. What is your daily schedule like?

I'd rather not introduce my parents because explaining that I've been taking advice from strangers on the internet on how to pick up chicks would be kind of awkward.

But right now I usually wake up, make coffee and breakfast; eat while I browse pickup sites, fitness boards, fashion blogs, Facebook, etc. Then my mom yells at me to work on my school so I work on it for a few hours (I crunched on my math work so I'm done with math for the year); After I finish my school work I lift, read, work, nap, shower, whatever until dinner.

My only problem with being home schooled is the limited social circle. If I were to home school my kids I'd make sure I had them in like fifty social activities so they're normal. Half of the home schooled kids I know are normal from whatever activities they do and fit in. But the other half are INCREDIBLY AWKWARD AND HARD TO BE AROUND. The last year or two of my life (I'm 15) have consisted of getting a taste in stuff and socializing because I realized how a** backwards I was. But I think I'm fine now. If anything I've got too into art for the backwater area that I live in.

But one of the cool things is that I'm going into community college at 16 so I'm essentially skipping two years of high school and getting a head start on college (and college girls ).

Feel free to PM me about homeschooling if you got any questions about curriculum or whatever.

Yeah, huge rant about my life aside. I'll be sure to be direct. Because I REALLY like this girl and I'd rather be cool with her than play mindgames for a shot at prom.

 

[Drook]

Okay, so prom's off. She says it's a cultural thing but it sounded like BS to me. She also cancelled the date for what sounds like more BS. But she seemed eager to set up another date and she randomly complimented me on my style. Plus she viewed my post on Facebook an hour ago and hasn't responded even though she's online.

I'm not sure if she's legitly clueless and still wants to hang out or if she's playing me. She doesn't seem like a player but I'm honestly at a loss.

 

[LongLostFriend]

Outcome independence. Maintain the frame and don't get butthurt.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Is this rescheduled "date" definitely a date? I would even use the word date to make sure she knows youre planning on kissing her.

 

[SirFratserlot]

Dude I was in the same situation, but college and for greek functions. I met this girl 5 weeks ago and we were screwing around and her interest was high in me. Her prom thing is this Friday and she has not invited me, so she invited another guy. Usually girls have dates like months in advance, so I'm hoping she already had a date in advance or something.

 

[Drook]

As of right now I don't think the date is anything since she hasn't responded since I last posted. I'm just going to leave her be until she messages me back. I'll see her Sunday so I'll see if she's still interested then. I think I'll start pursuing other girls if nothing happens this Sunday to avoid oneitis and practice a bit.

What's weird about the prom thing is that she doesn't have a date at all and
she's just going with some friends. Which makes me wonder if there's another interest.

Is it possible to change thread topics? I've been thinking about starting a journal if things don't work out with czech.

 

[SirFratserlot]

As of right now I don't think the date is anything since she hasn't responded since I last posted. I'm just going to leave her be until she messages me back. I'll see her Sunday so I'll see if she's still interested then. I think I'll start pursuing other girls if nothing happens this Sunday to avoid oneitis and practice a bit.

What's weird about the prom thing is that she doesn't have a date at all and
she's just going with some friends. Which makes me wonder if there's another interest.

Is it possible to change thread topics? I've been thinking about starting a journal if things don't work out with czech.

Here's the possibilities

1) She asked another guy meaning there's another guy
2) Her friends hooked her up with a guy to go with her
3) She's going by herself which might be worse for you honestly

 

[Drook]

I think it's 3 because she said she's "not really into dates" and that in Slovakia people "just dance everybody together and if you want to dance with somebody you just dance with them". I thought that she was signaling me at first but now I'm not sure.

I'm thinking about making up some obviously BS excuse about being busy next week so I can either A. Walk away from this being in control or B. get her to actively try to set up a date. Because right now I've lost control entirely and I can't message her without looking desperate.

 

[SirFratserlot]

What I'm doing is just not worrying about it. Maybe she did not see you wanting to go or something. Acting desperate will just kill any interest and make you look butthurt. I know a guy that was banging this girl and she did not invite him to hers and I know another situation with girls. You really don't know, but I'd start talking to other girls.