"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Invited to a superbowl party

lifeislearning

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Hi fellas,

Last night I invited a girl out for some beer and bar games, I was vague and acted like she was already going, and this really piqued her interest. This morning she bailed on me due to a "dinner I promised my roomates" but wants to make it up later. She called later and left a message saying she felt bad and invited me to a superbowl party.

Though I have no plans as of yet, and don't really care should I go? We often have difficulty getting ahold of eachother and setting up times to meet due to busy schedules. She is attracted to me, and we had a thing in the past, but my recent progression from an AFC has been noticed by her and occasionally commented upon. What do you think about this? How can I use this opportunity to increase her interest further?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Johnny_Kage

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The questions you have to ask yourself here is:

Do you want to go to the party?

and

Do you want to see her?

and

Do you have any better options?

If the answer to the first two are yes, and the last one is no. Then go.

The best way to increase her interest is to be a cool guy and have fun with her. Then make a move when the time is right.

JK
 

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Go no matter how you feel if anything it will be a new experience see if you can bring one of your bros though its always good to have backup.
 

lifeislearning

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A backup what?
 

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a back up friend, confidant, comrade, battle buddy, what have you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJDamage

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If there isn't a real party after the superbowl game then it might not lead to anything.

I mean I would imagine that in this superbowl party all you are going to be doing is sitting there, watching the game and drinking beer with her and her friends. I highly doubt that in this atmosphere you can really do something with her or it was done on purpose in having her friends gauge/judge you or potentially block you from advancing on her when they are around.

I say if you don't have other Superbowl parties get together with your friends then go to this one but don't expect anything big from happening.
 
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