"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Invited me on a trip to another state so she can meet up with her boyfriend... huh?

FluckWomen

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Ok fellas, I've never posted on this site before because I typically feel like I know enough sh!t about relationships to handle most stuff that comes around. HOWEVER, recently I was propositioned out of the blue by this one chick who I was at one point interested in, and I don't know how to interpret it.

Long story short I've met this girl/been around this girl a total of maybe 6 times, all very briefly and as the result of coincidence (happened to be going to the same events through mutual friends). The last time I saw her, though, she had invited me to the event without inviting our mutual friend, so I showed up with one of my buddies and she had some other guy with her at the time so I didn't pay her much attention that night.

Anyway, she calls me out of the blue at like 7:30 AM to tell me that she wants me to come with her to another state (about a 6 hour drive) for the weekend cuz she's meeting up with her boyfriend who lives in that particular state. She added that I was "the first person to come to her mind" to go with her on this trip, which I assume was to just sucker me into agreeing to such a ridiculous idea. I told her I might have a friend flying in that weekend to visit me and that I'd get back to her once I knew the specific dates he was planning on arriving/leaving.

I plan on not calling her back and ignoring the whole proposition, since me going on the trip has FAR more potential con's than pro's. But, I must say that I am rather clueless/curious as to what her thinking was on even inviting me on this trip in the first place. Any thoughts on what the FLIP is going on here?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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have you been intimate with her? kissed? held hands??? does she know you like her in any way???

if she doesnt, you never let her know, she sees you as her girlfriend and wants you along lol

if she knows you like her, then she's crazy either way... you know what to do MAN!

save the time, stay in town
 

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pipe007 said:
have you been intimate with her? kissed? held hands??? does she know you like her in any way???

if she doesnt, you never let her know, she sees you as her girlfriend and wants you along lol

if she knows you like her, then she's crazy either way... you know what to do MAN!

save the time, stay in town
Most times I've met up with her she'd keep trying to hold my hand, non-stop kino, she'd get mad whenever some other chick would be showing interest in me, mainly good signs.

I wouldn't have even posted this if I knew her well enough/spent enough time with her to think that she currently considers me her "girlfriend." Honestly I feel like I barely know her enough for her to ask me to take a roadtrip with her, to see a boyfriend or to not see a boyfriend. To me this is like randomly seeing a guy a few times at the same event and that guy randomly asking you to help him move out of his apartment 6 months later, just straight up inappropriate based on the circumstances
 
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It's pretty obvious- she was merely telling you that you were "the first person that came to mind"- but search your intuitions...does this really seem plausible? You don't think she asked ANY of her girlfriends first? I'm going to guess that she did...and asked quite a few...and all the people in front of you said no. So she came to you.

You know what to do.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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