"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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If anyone ever watches “How I met your mother” there was an episode last fall (The Yips) in which Barney reveals the only reason he joined the gym is so that he can compliment fat women who are trying to lose weight. He refers to it as his investment for the future. When the women lose weight, they will remember Barney fondly as the man who complimented them and encouraged them while they were loosing weight and then he can benefit from their attention when they are hot.

This to me is brilliant. And I can assure you it works. As a bisexual woman, I have an interesting perspective on this. I am incredibly vain when it comes to women and I would never consider dating a “fat” girl. However, until recently I would have been considered obese. I was always surprised when men would compliment me when I was heavier, knowing I would never considering dating a woman my size. I always thanked them, but ignored their advances, having a hard time believing they could actually be attracted to me. I just recently lost over 60lbs. And all of a sudden I have a lot more men complimenting me now than I did a year ago. I have a whole new self-confidence, and am enjoying the idea of dating many of these men. However, the men I am considering first, are the men who complimented me before I lost the weight and encouraged me while I was loosing it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Her point is: Go out into the jim and compliment on women who try to lose fat

Well I personally wont to that and im not going into the gym just to compliment ppl i will never ever see again and who i wont even recognise
 

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I think the point is that woman who were fat in the past are more sensible to comments related to their weight.

And I think that all women are seinsible when it comes to their weight. I read somewhere that the three sweetest words you can say to a woman are: "You look thinner." "Aww, really? That's just the sweetest thing."

But in that logic... It works for any kind of attribute you have control of. "Your face looks a lot cleaner now." I'm not sure that would work. They may interpretate it as: You used to be ugly but now you're not.

I think it only works if they were awere of themselves before ("What the hell do you mean, I was fat?") and are proud of the new self.

Does this make sence?
 

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@smackler i hope so :D

but hey the threadstarter meant go to a Gym and compliment those fat ladies who are there to loose it and when they will lose ist, they will want you blabla
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think that the club is still better then the gym to pick up chicks. :D And why would you want to wait until they are thinner? It takes time for a chick to get thinner when last week she was eating 5 donuts a day (Just for breakfest) and has well over 50 kilos. :D

I could type over 5 things that are bad about this idea. :whistle: With this you're assuming she will care and, worse, you have weeks to wait for a 4 to turn into a 7 so you can date her! (*cough cough* desparate maybe? *cough*) Can't you go strait to the FOUNTAIN OF HOTNESS and try for something with shape? (Not round shape, mind you! :nervous: ). You should!
 
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