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Introverts vs. Extroverts. Which do you prefer dating?

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I'd like to hear your thoughts about introverts and extroverts, which do you prefer dating, what you think of each type of person in general, etc.

Dating introverts has never worked out well for me. I've tried and just made them miserable. If I'm alone all the time I go crazy. I would hate to be in my own home and have to give them hours where I can't interact or ask questions or figure out what they wanted for dinner. I want a Girl who is as happy to go out and socialise as I am, who also gets more energised by going out and being with other people. I am pretty attracted to outgoing gregarious people, particularly ones who tend to shine a bit more in group settings.
 

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I’m an introvert and the “battery” analogy you might have heard before is spot on. We have a certain limited “charge” for socializing. Once the battery is depleted, it can only be recharged by us being alone. One on one interactions are preferred and are only a “slow draw” on the battery. Interacting with multiple people at once is a bigger load that will deplete the battery much faster.

I have nothing against extroverts. Many are good people. I just get burned out and frustrated if I’m around them too much. I feel like I’m pulled in too many different directions. Trying to keep up with a multi-person conversation, and the thread/topic changes every two minutes. (Introverts like depth. We’d rather stay on one topic for a while.)

I would definitely prefer an introverted woman because she will seem more “chill” to me (even if she’s somewhat neurotic on the inside lol), and I would be more relaxed around such a person.

The downside is that (anecdotally) it seems to me that introvert women don’t seek out introvert guys. It’s only some extroverted women that MIGHT find the introvert guy mysterious/attractive.
 

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For dating I prefer introverts. They’re less likely to cheat on you and get you STD’s, they’re more loyal and sex isn’t so easy to get that it’s boring, but accessible enough that it isn’t frustrating or bad for your relationship. You don’t have to feel bad about them talking to other guys and you can trust them.
For plates and random hookups, it doesn’t matter their social standing for me.
 

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For dating I prefer introverts. They’re less likely to cheat on you and get you STD’s, they’re more loyal and sex isn’t so easy to get that it’s boring, but accessible enough that it isn’t frustrating or bad for your relationship. You don’t have to feel bad about them talking to other guys and you can trust them.
For plates and random hookups, it doesn’t matter their social standing for me.
I'm on the fence about that, the last introvert i dated had no real hobbies or interests besides tv/movies. She was very much a homebody who was fine with not going out at all during the lockdown. All she talked about was tv/movies, I don't really enjoy it that much.

With an extrovert we can go out and do stuff, introverts probably are more loyal since they rarely like to go out and won't meet other guys you're right about that.
 

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extroverts are extrohoes :rofl:

Odds are...finding and introvert that isn't a hoe, are higher. That said, introverts are plenty hoeish too. sooo...

Nevermind:rofl:
 

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I think that there's some truth to the old saying.. "opposites attract." .

I'm an extrovert and am attracted to introverts. As a general rule, I find them to be more feminine.
Same. I’m an extrovert attracted to introverts, much better than the loud sporty women who try to be more manly.
 

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She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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I’m an introvert... I need to date introverts. I have spurts off being extroverted but then need 2-3 days to relax. I’ve dated extroverts and it didn’t work... they can attend a party every night or the week snd crave more. I need to unwind and relax after one social evening.... they also want to talk non stop... phone calls... sitting on the couch with you and trying to talk. I need to be left t f alone
 

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I’m an introvert... I need to date introverts. I have spurts off being extroverted but then need 2-3 days to relax. I’ve dated extroverts and it didn’t work... they can attend a party every night or the week snd crave more. I need to unwind and relax after one social evening.... they also want to talk non stop... phone calls... sitting on the couch with you and trying to talk. I need to be left t f alone
That's what being used to living alone does to you.
 

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Odds are...finding and introvert that isn't a hoe, are higher. That said, introverts are plenty hoeish too. sooo...
theres literally no give away anymore that a woman is precious, theyre all sneaky.

I went out with an introvert, ltd selfies, 150 social media friends , you would have been told this was a good chic a decade ago.

Anyway, she used to stop in never socialised(so far so excellent),

but inbetween dating her she used to have the weirdest marks all over her body, she had big 36E tits,

anyway we had a raging argument, and blue pill me went round hers to make up, I peered through her bottom bedroom window, and two men were sucking her tits , whilst she was getting some weird power trip.

Theyres no good girls, just ones who havent been caught
 

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Theyres no good girls,
Yep...It will literally be a supernatural event to find one.

It's a lost cause of massive proportions. :rofl:
 

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I'd like to hear your thoughts about introverts and extroverts, which do you prefer dating, what you think of each type of person in general, etc.

Dating introverts has never worked out well for me. I've tried and just made them miserable. If I'm alone all the time I go crazy. I would hate to be in my own home and have to give them hours where I can't interact or ask questions or figure out what they wanted for dinner. I want a Girl who is as happy to go out and socialise as I am, who also gets more energised by going out and being with other people. I am pretty attracted to outgoing gregarious people, particularly ones who tend to shine a bit more in group settings.
I'm quite introverted myself and I get along with both. Most of my girlfriends have been more extroverted than me. I appreciate that kind of character but I also appreciate introverted people. What I don't like at all is arrogance. Anyway, I don't think it's an absolute either/or. It depends on the environment. I can like being with people, but it depends what type of people.
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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There are also plenty of extroverts with good social skills who know how to deal with introverts. They understand that if the other person goes quiet at times or says much less, it’s no big deal. And such extroverts don’t put the introvert “on the spot” with too many questions lol.
 

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Often the extroverts are in it more for the attention than the sex, while the introverts follow through on the sex.

It was interesting hearing the partner counts of very openly promiscuous women versus this quiet shy types. The shy ones were 2-5x more.
totally can see that, a couple of "introverts" weren't shy about me coming to their house on the first meet, either.

I thought "oh yeah youve done this show before"
 

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I'm off the charts in my introversion levels, but I generally prefer woman that are a little bit extroverted, mainly because I'm not interested in women who are even remotely similar to me.

I'd rather go out and do fun **** with them, not have a "quite night in" - I much prefer doing that alone. Hell, I even prefer camping alone, I probably would hate camping with a girl unless she was genuinely interesting and fun to be around.
 
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theres literally no give away anymore that a woman is precious, theyre all sneaky.

I went out with an introvert, ltd selfies, 150 social media friends , you would have been told this was a good chic a decade ago.

Anyway, she used to stop in never socialised(so far so excellent),

but inbetween dating her she used to have the weirdest marks all over her body, she had big 36E tits,

anyway we had a raging argument, and blue pill me went round hers to make up, I peered through her bottom bedroom window, and two men were sucking her tits , whilst she was getting some weird power trip.

Theyres no good girls, just ones who havent been caught
Marks on her body?
 

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Marks on her body?
yeah whenever we split and rekindled she would be covered in love bites, I couldnt really say anything because I was banging other women. but it was kind of weird as she never went out or socialized,

her ***** was clearly socialising
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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